Hey everyone,
So I have sort of a strange situation going on. We were planning to have our wedding and even had proposals and everything and then we realized we didn't want to do it so fast (in 8 months) so we postponed it. Backstory to the whole thing, there were discussions about the in laws helping to pay for the wedding ( they already wanted to have the rehearsal dinner open to ALL WEDDING GUESTS and we told them only the wedding party) and then when we got the budget my future husband said he didn't feel comfortable asking his parents to pay (keep in mind his parents have 10x the money my parents have and already tried to plan a rehearsal dinner with every attendee of the wedding and not just the wedding party) and that my parents needed to just pay and my parents told me a number and that was what they could contribute it was about half of what we were needing. ( also keep in mind i have about almost 1/3 of the guests from my family and the other 2/3 were from his). With all of this we decided to postpone until we could figure some things out. When we told the in-laws they offered to pay for the whole thing because they didn't want to have to tell their whole family that we were going to postpone, but my future husband didn't like that and still agreed with me that we should postpone. Fast forward we have found another venue that is relatively cheaper, but we don't love it as much. The number is so low that my parents have agreed to pay for most of it, but my fiance isn't completely on board because the place does not hold much meaning to us. What should we do? Regardless of place how do I say that I do not think it is fair that my parents are paying for a wedding where 40/120 people are my family and the rest are his and the FMIL is already complaining about everyone not being invited that she wants with that number? I don't want to make our entire wedding about money, but how do I navigate this?
