I'm the big bridesmaid? (vent)

I totally understand how crappy that can feel, but remember not to compare yourself to the other MOH. I've had a long history of disordered eating and a generally crappy body image, and you are so blessed not to feel that way on a regular basis. There will always be someone skinner/fatter/more toned/taller/shorter/prettier/bigger boobed, whatever...I'm sure the bride and MOH have their own insecurities, as well. Remember how great you felt at your own wedding!

You're too pretty, and I bet sweet and smart too, to think this way! I bet they don't have your smile, either

Own your body! Everyone is different. Take a breath. Maybe they feel inferior next to you! *hair toss*

I bet they're both wishing they were taller like you! Everyone struggles with this sometimes. Try not to let it bring you down. Own that confidence you felt when trying on wedding dresses.

Thanks guys for your kind words. I think what's messing with me is that I'm usually the super tiny one. I'm only 5'1"! But average weight and curves looks a heck of a lot bigger and curvier when you put it next to two girls who are so thin. It's a light I don't normally see myself in and it just sucked my confidence out of me. Hopefully it comes back to me soon. Either way, I need to remember it's how I feel on my wedding day that counts.

*Edited to remove body shaming language

I am MORE than twice as big as my sister. She is a teeny person and I am a giant person. We took a picture together on Saturday at a show and the first thing she said was, "Look at your boobs, they're like PA-POW! I'll never get a picture like that, I always look flat chested next to you."

And I'll never be a skinny blond.

I have always always had my little sister with me, I just AM the "bigger one"- you are in this situation too. I don't see why that's a bad thing- it's not like the guests at the wedding are seeing you all on tv and won't realize how petite the other two are.

I am honestly a little p.o.'d and annoyed by your post-it's like some sort of weird humble brag of "Oh, I'm not actually FAT or anything, I usually love my normal sized body, I just feel like such a cow next to these ladies."

Hhhmm.

Are you really silently judging me every time I am the biggest lady in the room? Because I am, about 95% of the time. The difference is I never worry about what mean people think.

I so know the feeling. Just remember everyone is different and has their own insecurities. I have a girl friend that is very thin short and flat chested. Growing up I was always so envious of how tiny she was. Little did I know she was envious of the fact that I was average height large chested and generally average sized. Everyone is envious of someone in some way. Just remember that! Don't compare yourself to anyone, just try and be comfortable in your own skin.

Sara - I'm sorry that my post hurt you. This wasn't wasn't a "everyone tell me how skinny and pretty I am" post. It was an honest vent about body image. You can have a negative body image regardless of what size you are. And I never said I felt fat. I felt like a linebacker. Tall. Broad. Not something I'm used to seeing when I look in the mirror.

My confidence is shaken and I'm not sure how to handle it. I used to be at an unhealthy weight and I handled it poorly. I suppose I just wanted to put my thoughts down and see if people had ways of how to handle it positively. This had nothing to do with you or anyone else. It had to do with me and how I was looking at myself.

To answer your question, no. I'm not judging you or anyone else who is larger than me. Or smaller than me. I'm judging myself and I'm trying to find a way not to. I'm trying to find a way back to my confidence.

Again, I'm sorry if I hurt you. That was not my intention, but I understand how it came across that way.

Yeah, and if they're sticks then you've got the curves. I bet they're envious of those.

If you're 5"1', I really think the last thing anyone is going to think is that you look like a linebacker! I really wouldn't worry about it.

^ What O&S said.. I couldn't have said it better!

I'm sorry you feel that way. Just remember only what you think of yourself matters. Everyone is built differently.

I didn't interpret your post as a humble brag at all. You're feeling self conscious and are missing the confidence you normally have. I understand how tough that can be.

Remember that you are beautiful just the way you are.

I feel ya. Being 5'10", I almost always feel like the giant in the room. I agree with O&S, though. I'm working on that myself!

Wow @Sara...that was a little harsh if you ask me. You interpreted her post completely wrong. It is fine to feel the way you do, but it could've been said with a little more tact FFS.

OP handled her way better than I would have! I didn't see anything wrong with OP's post at all.

Grown ass women only 90 lbs eww.

Sorry not sorry but I hope your exaggerating bc that's just gross. You do not need to be a stick with a napkin on to look good. I'm sure you will look great.

@Promike- I don't think it was harsh at all. How many hundreds of large/tall/ overweight women read these forums and then see her post about not wanting to be the "big bridesmaid" ? OUCH.

There is nothing wrong with being a larger person. OP responded to my comments, I think she understood where I was coming from and was very gracious about

@FFW, body shaming is gross. It's not more acceptable because the person is underweight, instead of overweight.

@OP, everyone faces the insecurities, no matter what they look like. I'm sure you look fabulous in the dress!

I'm sure these girls wish they had your body! Trust me i'm usually a very skinny minny short person. And I see my sister and the way she fills dresses and for a moment I wish I was her. We all have our flaws Just work with what mama your gave you