I'm so over it. i can't wait for this whole thing to be done.

wedding planning can be really overwhelming. Take a breather. And people can be really annoying too aha. Don't forget to practice self care and have some me time and days where you're not dealing with wedding stuff

I'm the same way as you. My FH sometimes gets upsets that im not as excited as I should be. I tell him he should worry if i only get excited for the wedding. I just want to marry him and thats it. My family is being kept in the dark about our wedding details, this also includes our date. We are planning on telling them in 2 weeks but i am so scared to do that. I know people will start stressing me out with every little thing they dont agree with. So hang in there. You're almost there.

Yes I am feeling this so much. It’ll be over soon.

View Quoted Comment I would be fine if everyone else would just leave me alone. I've already done everything for them. They're just making problems so they can have drama to focus on.

I completely get it. Weddings bring out the worst in people I swear, these normally sweet people become opinionated, rude beasts. I’ve definitely had my “screw this” moment while planning a wedding. You’ve just got to shut it down in your mind. Opinions? Pay up or shut up. Unless someone is going to pay for it themselves then nope sorry can’t be done. No matter what kind of wedding you have, someone out there is going to complain. You can’t please everybody so just focus on yourself at this point.
Your wedding is soon so it’s understandable your FH is stressed, you need a frank talk. “I know you’re stressed, I’m stressed too, but I can’t do this alone. I need you to help finish this wedding.”, my FH went through the same thing. He started feeling sick every time I brought up the wedding. In his mind it was oh who needs money NOW? What vendor is calling us? What stupid projects do we still have left? He felt like it was nonstop work, and honestly it has been! But when you do it together you can finish it faster. Just let your FH know that. You can have days off and freetime again once we finish our To Do list, so let’s just finish this. Your FH might come around once he sees there’s an end in sight of this wedding planning madness.

I had a meltdown this past week and I'm right with you. I'm not sure I'll make it to the actual wedding. I wanted to elope (think max 20 people). I wanted to NOT spend 10s of thousands of dollars on 6 hours. I still do to both of those things. I don't even wanna get on a tangent because I'll get myself all upset again. It's super hard to know on one hand I'm doing all of this BS for everyone else (this is not "my" wedding) and on the other hand I want to tell 90% of them to go screw themselves. Sending positive vibes ✌😁💖.

Ugh, I'm so glad others feel this way. It's so exhausting. And I totally feel you about being the only person capable of Google.

Looks like you're getting married the day before me -- we're almost done! Hang in there!

I asked my FH about some flower ideas yesterday and he literally said he feels overwhelmed by all of the wedding planning. This man hasn’t talked to me about the wedding in like 2 months! Ugh! I feel ya girl!!

Youre almost there though and it’ll be worth it!

Oh wow.... best wishes!!

View Quoted Comment Jennifer you're my soul mate. Can I marry you? Lmao 😂😂😂😂

Omg, your last line made me laugh!!!

1) Breathe. 2) Quit sharing details with people. The peanut gallery with hush up. 3) Have a heart-to-heart with your FH, cry or ask for help in any way you can.

Listen Madison...I want to go on our cruise with my dog some days! Real talk what is wrong with people asking all the dumb questions? Why is my only local bridesmaid totally absentee in everything? Why does my out of state sister think that paying for a brewery rental for the bachelorette party and calling 13 people to invite is the hugest task? Why does my FH think that a wedding will plan itself? Why does my Mother send me a thumbs up emoji anytime I share details about the big day? I need a cocktail. I just want to be married to him, and be Mrs Queen (Yes my new last name will be Queen) but alas, 43 more days of this planning nonsense...Good Luck to you friend!

View Quoted Comment Congrats Date Twin (Susan)
Susan, I thought my FH was the only one who thought that this wedding would come together without any planning. (FH words to me were "I thought we picked a date, venue, photographer and you pick a dress and that is all it takes for is to have a wedding...) 🤯

Madison, I honestly think we all have been there. I know I have. Self care this weekend. Even if it's just getting a facial or mani/pedi. As mentioned previously, no one elses opinions matter. Focus on why your doing this. YOU WANT TO MARRY THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

You got this...

View Quoted Comment 😂😂😂

It's always good to have a plan B!

Sending big hugs! I called off my first wedding 3 days before it happened, and that settled everyone down and I was able to finish my wedding without the hassle of everyone's problems. It's a tough time for brides, and no one appreciates the stress of pulling it all together, especially when you have so few days left. Take a deep breath, shut off the phone, and do what you need to do so your day is special.

View Quoted Comment Preeeaaaaccchhhh my one MOH is a total dodo so I dont ask anything of her. My sister has been amazing but she lives out of state and I feel awful constantly complaining to her when she's younger and has her own stuff you know? And my mom send me those emoji's too!! And then tells other people I 'leave her out' of things?! She's always been a narcissist though.

And yes I swear other people think this thing is planning itself or that some other magical entity besides me is because I keep getting told to relax but if I dont do it doesnt get done 🤷‍♀️

Little update: had a heart to heart with FH last night and it went okay at first....about halfway through he goes "okay well let's just table this and try to have a good night now"....and I try to explain that I'm not done, I still have a few things I want to get off my chest....que fight about how I'm making myself a victim and stressing everyone else out by constantly talking about the wedding. I went out for a walk and came back. He locked himself in the guest room watching TV and still hasn't spoken to me as of this morning. 🤷‍♀️💯👌 ok then I guess I'll keep venting to WW and my sister!

View Quoted Comment Exactly. They all tell us it's our special day, but they also make it as difficult as possible to get there! It also sucks being the first one in my friends/family group getting married this generation because people act like they've never been to an wedding,never heard of a wedding, and dont know how to Google lmao

View Quoted Comment Dont you just love that? I swear it takes all my energy some days not to ask my FH if he needs a diaper change. My FH said that listening to me vent....just LISTENING....not being asked to do anything...was too stressful.....if you cant even do that what can you do? Lol

Girl if you (or anyone- looking at you too date twin) want to, find me on facebook! Real name Susan Staples..we all should stick together!