I'm not sure if I'm invited..?

Were you invited to the bridal shower?

Just say everything sounds fantastic I can't wait to see pictures from the big day...boom done!

Did you receive an invitation?

That would be really awkward. Were you invited to the shower?

I doubt you are invited if the wedding is in a month. Invites go out closer to the 8 week mark,

No I never got an invitation but she keeps saying "oh I have to give you something for the wedding" so that's the only reason I'm like uh...okay..?

Well unless she hands you an invitation than you aren't invited.

Yeah that's odd. Just remind her she needs to give you something. That should clear it up when you see what it is

You are not invited. you would of had an invite already.

You are not invited. you would of had an invite already.

I like Keisha's suggestion!

Another option is you just wait. If she has you on a list somewhere, she will probably ask you about your RSVP soon.

I'm going with you're not invited. Don't ask her at all about it. If she wants to invite you, she will (or would have already.) She didn't forget.

I don't see any harm with reminding her, "Hey, you wanted to give me something for the wedding?" I'm not sure why else she's been mentioning that to you if you wouldn't be invited.

If you don't receive an invitation though, then you aren't invited. That's why I'm curious if she has been meaning to give you an invitation. But at the same time, does she not have your address? Wouldn't she mail it? You'll know for sure when her RSVP deadline rolls around because she'll be asking you about it.

I would just wait, if you don't get an invite then no, you're not invited. Don't ask her about it either, that puts her on the spot.

I would say, If you haven't received an invitation, you aren't invited. You could perhaps wish her the best and say you can't wait to see photos or something like that, but don't outright ask.

Wow, well if you're not invited, the bride sounds rude AF. Who constantly gabs about their wedding to someone who isn't invited to said wedding? Or says stuff like "I have something for you for the wedding"?

I'm sorry, but why would you NOT want to clarify this? For all you know, the bride sent you an invite and it never physically got to you. You say you used to be very close, lost touch for a bit and now are pretty good friends again from the sounds of it. If this is the case and you can be up front with her, honestly I'd ask. "Hey Jane, you keep mentioning you have something to give me for the wedding?" Then see what happens. What "it" is will hopefully clear things up.

I wouldn't say anything except I can't wait to see pictures like someone mentioned earlier! Odd that the whole restaurant is invited tho

In theory, if she invited you and the invite got lost in the mail she should come looking to chase down your RSVP. Maybe ask a mutual friend what the RSVP date was and if it has passed you'll have your answer.

This is an odd situation. I would be confused too... If she says that she has something for you for the wedding again, I would ask her what she means. If she says something else cryptic like, it's a surprise, I would say "surprise for what?" she might just say, "for the wedding" again...

I think Keisha's idea is a good one. If you talk about seeing photos, that would be her chance to say, "aren't you coming?" if she intended to invite you.

Her constant talk about the wedding and comments like "I need to give you something for the wedding" are rude and bizarre if she wasn't planning to invite you. I would go with the assumption that you aren't invited though. Next time she mentions the wedding just say that you can't wait to see photos as pp said, and then change the topic or remove yourself from her presence. It's just rude of her.