I'm not doing a Father/Daughter Dance

Honestly? I'd pass on it.

How 'bout "In My Life" by the Beatles. I hope you don't get flak for this-- biology does NOT guarantee one rights at the wedding, IMO.

I'm with Celia on this.

We're skipping so many traditions. This will be one of them. FH lost his parents when he was young and it doesn't make sense for me to dance with my father when his mom is gone. We're also not tossing the garter or bouquet. Still haven't decided on cutting the cake. Probably not. I hate interrupting a good party. If i could, I'd skip the toasts and first dance too, but FH won't have it.

I'm NOT doing it. He chose to not be a part of my life. He will be invited, but as a guest only.

You could dance with your brother or your mom, or you could skip the dance altogether. I'm skipping it (and my fiance is still doing a mother-son dance).

We're skipping the parent dances. My dad and I aren't super close and neither FH or I like being the center of attention, so, it just made sense not to do them.

I didn't even invite my father to the wedding. So no worries for me. But like you my Grandpa was my father figure but passed about 2 years ago. I would honestly skip, a dance for your grandpa would be nice but personally I would cry if I did chose to do it.

Skipping the father/daughter dance myself. Although my dad has always been a part of my life, it hasn't been a very good or close relationship. I did ask him if he wanted to walk me down the aisle because I love and respect him and he deserves that honor. He decided he wants to do that. I did not ask him to dance with me because it would be freaking awkward and it's not something I want to do just for traditions sake.

I agree- I'd skip it. My dad isn't in my life, and so we are skipping those dances altogether. I'm walking myself down the aisle, and FH is coming halfway down to meet me and escort me the rest of the way.

I would just pass on it - you don't want your dad getting any "Feelings" about it, do you? If you don't care, then just do what you want.

A separate thought, my officiate suggested avoiding memorials/remembrance pieces in wedding because it tends to turn the mood down.

I am not close with my biological father either he is NOT invited to my wedding so I will not be having a father/daughter dance however my little brother is giving me away so we will be doing a sister/brother dance instead. FH said he does not want to do a mother/son dance because he has bad rhythm but im tryna change his mind.

So, here's my take -

If your dad IS there, and you dance with someone other than him, its not just about your dad, it becomes about everyone whispering, "Why isn't she with her dad." IT might be weird. Also, is your groom insisting on dancing with his mom? A lot of people just aren't doing all the dances anymore. They take up a lot of time, and people are bored during them. If you wish to skip them, nobody would care.

My wife had the same conflict and simply told her dad in advance how she felt (not easy, but worth it) and moved on. Skip the dance, unless there is someone else you want to recognize. It's really not such a required part of the night and it will mean you can start the open dancing that much faster, which is good for guests.

What pezzy said

also? my dad and i have a fantastic relationship but we still skipped parent dances. no one missed them and we're still legally married

We skipped the father/daughter because I didn't have that strong a relationship with my dad, and the mother/son because MIL has mobility issues. Pretty much nobody noticed, and if they did they thanked us for not boring everyone's pants off with too much performance crap.

I know this posts is from 2014, but how did you tell your father the news? I was thinking of not telling my father about the father/daughter dance or him not walking me down the isle. Now, he is butt hurt and tries to keep telling me, "You know, it's a tradition for the father of the bride to walk her down the isle". I then broke the news to him that I didn't choose him for that. Now, I know I have to let him know ahead of time that I won't be doing the father daughter dance either. If I don't tell him now he'll ask on that day and probably embarrass me if I turn him down on that day.... Sorry for the long comment, but please help ? lol