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LaCala
Savvy October 2015

Im having a Hallowedding! Need advice

LaCala, on December 9, 2014 at 1:29 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 25

Hello my Fiance and I are getting married 10-31-2015

His favorite holiday is Halloween and mine is Day of the Dead (nov 1)

Being that halloween is on a saturday in 2015 this made the timing perfect.

I'm not going for kitchy and literal halloween but more of black, purple, and silver accents with maybe a few pumpkins (think moonlit eveninng under the stars mixed with phantom of the opera). I hate flowers and it being fall was going to go with led-branches and alot of silver leaves and silver painted pumpkins and tons of candles. Is it okay to not have flowers. My bridesmaids are going to hold lanterns and flower girls will scatter silver fall leaves down the aisle. I dont mind having costumes at the reception but was going for more of a masquerade type feel, how should I phrase the dress code? I also dont want to wear a costume but still want to dress up so I'm going with a cape theme for my BM's and I. Here are some pics of my dress, BM dresses, and cape I will wear




25 Comments

Latest activity by Milwaukee_Bride, on December 9, 2014 at 2:56 PM
  • Emmy
    Master January 2015
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    You don't dictate what your guests are to wear.

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  • Sunshine
    Super September 2015
    Sunshine ·
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    Agreed with Emmy. You typically don't dictate what guests wear. However, I don't think it would be bad to put something on your wedding website along the lines of "Halloween costumes are not required, but are welcome."

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  • Milwaukee_Bride
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    Maybe just say it's a masquerade and suggest that guest wear a mask? Maybe even provide some for people who don't bring them? Idk...I do agree with the other girls that you can't dictate what people wear..

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  • TisFinallyHappy
    VIP September 2015
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    While you can not dictate what people wear you can most certainly let them know the wedding has a masquerade theme and they are welcome to come dressed as so. I think your ideas sound really fun.. good luck!

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  • Sunshine
    Super September 2015
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    @Milwaukee I love the idea of providing masquerade masks!

    @Lulu have you considered that anyone with kids under 14 may not be able to make it? Most people need to stay home and take their kids trick-or-treating on Halloween. Definitely send STDs several months before!

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  • Kerri
    Expert April 2015
    Kerri ·
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    I don't think she is trying to dictate what they wear necessarily, just provide info. A lot of people list attire on their website or invitation enclosure card. If I were going to a wedding on Halloween I guess I'd like to know if it was "Halloween themed" or not as far as attire is concerned. Maybe you could say something about how they are free to wear masquerade attire if they would like. I think Milwaukee bride's idea about having extra masks there too for people if they get there and decide that they want to wear one.

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  • soontobeamrs
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    A lot of places do not have trick or treating on Halloween and or at night. A friend of mine recently had a Masquerade type wedding on Halloween. In the invites she did say it was a Masquerade wedding to wear costumes/masks, etc however not required. About 80% did dress up. Great idea, good luck

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  • OG Ruth
    Master October 2015
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    I agree with Emmy, you can't tell your guests what to wear. I like Sunshine and Milwaukee's suggestions.

    The theme of my wedding is kinda Gothic & Halloweenish. FH and I love Halloween but we're not having the wedding on Halloween, we're having it earlier in the month when we know the weather will still be warm. Plus we don't want to take Halloween away from the kids who will be attending the wedding, when we know they'd rather go Trick-or-Treating.

    Our colors are black and red. Our cake is going to have skulls airbrushed on it with a skeleton bride & groom cake topper.

    You can get lots of great ideas from pinterest.

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  • L + R
    Master September 2014
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    I like Milwaukee's suggestion to provide masks. Is that you in your dress? It looks lovely, but I feel like it may have too much going on for you to wear a cape.

    SN: I don't think she was trying to dictate what her guests wear, at all. Calm your tits, ladies.

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  • Sara
    Savvy January 2015
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    Hi LuluCalavera!

    If you are going for more of a Masquerade Reception feel versus a Halloween costume party, I would recommend to make sure your guests know, you can't control what they wear but if they know the theme they may dress for it. We're doing a Masquerade reception this January because I wanted to add a little fun to the reception. My save the dates had a picture of us wearing masquerade masks to give a hint of the wedding, and then our invitations say "Masquerade Reception to Follow" after the ceremony info. We will be providing inexpensive masks as wedding favors so everyone can join the fun, though I have also let everyone know that they are welcome to bring their own masquerade mask for the reception. Also if you are looking for any beautiful masks for you and your girls I would recommend searching for masquerade masks on etsy, their are a lot of shops there with many gorgeous masks to choose from!

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  • Sara
    Savvy January 2015
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    Hi LuluCalavera!

    If you are going for more of a Masquerade Reception feel versus a Halloween costume party, I would recommend to make sure your guests know, you can't control what they wear but if they know the theme they may dress for it. We're doing a Masquerade reception this January because I wanted to add a little fun to the reception. My save the dates had a picture of us wearing masquerade masks to give a hint of the wedding, and then our invitations say "Masquerade Reception to Follow" after the ceremony info. We will be providing inexpensive masks as wedding favors so everyone can join the fun, though I have also let everyone know that they are welcome to bring their own masquerade mask for the reception. Also if you are looking for any beautiful masks for you and your girls I would recommend searching for masquerade masks on etsy, their are a lot of shops there with many gorgeous masks to choose from!

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  • AndixLyn
    Master June 2015
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    Avoid costumes of any sort. my gf thought it would be "so cool" and only a few showed up in horrible costumes and she was devastated and how bad it looked. it never ends up like a masquerade ball in the movies.

    providing masks could work.

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  • Uber Dami
    Master October 2015
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    Just put that guests are encouraged but not required to go the masquerade route with their attire. and no, you dont need flowers at your wedding....fh and i are going with thorn branches, leaves, and the like instead of flowers.

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  • Bethyonce
    Master February 2015
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    I like the idea of providing masks, they could be favors as well if that is what you are wanting.

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  • Catalina
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    If you have a wedding website you can let people know the theme of your wedding and let them know they are welcome to participate by wearing masquerade masks, but I wouldn't suggest costumes. I think you should provide masks at your reception. I bought the colorful one for $2.00 and the silver one for $1.00 so that should give you an idea of pricing.



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  • Lucy
    Master April 2015
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    That's a neat idea in general. I think you should skip the costumes. The masquerade is a nice idea though. You can let guests know they can wear a mask if they want, and also provide masks at your wedding for anyone who couldn't get one themselves.

    I also love the idea of a cape, but if that is your dress, I think the cape wouldn't look right. (pretty dress, I just think the cape would be too much)

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  • Janeen
    Master January 2015
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    Am I correct in this interpretation? You're saying that you are welcoming halloween costumes, but not requiring them?

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  • Sara
    Savvy January 2015
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    Here's some ideas of masks you you and your guests if you're looking to go with more of the masquerade feel Smiley smile

    This is the Etsy shop my girls are ordering their masks from for our masquerade reception: https://www.etsy.com/shop/CynthiasMerchantOne?section_id=15134330&ref=shopsection_leftnav_4

    For the guests as part of their wedding favor we ordered these masks: http://www.aliexpress.com/item/2013-fashion-mask-gold-shining-plated-party-mask-wedding-props-masquerade-mardi-gras-mask-20pcs-lot/1086493318.html

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  • LaCala
    Savvy October 2015
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  • GoneAndMarried
    Master August 2015
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    It is okay not to have flowers. I would provide masks also.

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