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Savvy October 2020

I’m fat and i don’t want i get married! :(

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Gina, on February 16, 2020 at 5:48 PM

I feel terrible about my weight. I had precancer in my uterus and needed hormones and I blew up to a whopping 275lbs! We were set to be married this year in September but I just don’t even want to go thru with it at this weight. Not enough time to lose 100lbs healthily.

Half of me wants to postpone it so that I can feel better about myself and my day. The other half of me says that’s ridiculous and “it’s me and he loves me, and it’s not about your weight”
I feel like even if I postpone the wedding I may not even lose the weight so it could all be for absolutely nothing. I mean I’m addicted to food.....and have been heavy my entire life so it’s like a whole life change now....
We’re trying to buy a house, he’s going to into police academy too!! I think I want to do this wedding this year and focus on the rest of the stuff next year but idk..
Any advice is appreciated......💕

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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 17, 2020 at 6:52 AM
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♥️ Congrats to you on your recovery!!!!! And I agree with you she shouldn’t postpone. In life ANYTHING can happen. My brother in law lost his battle to cancer and my sister never got to have her big wedding it was very small at their house. Life is too unpredictable at times to postpone something so special because of a few extra pounds. ♥️🙏 praying for your continuous recovery!
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Alex · on February 17, 2020 at 1:26 PM
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I say you have the wedding! I would take some extra time to find a dress that you love at the weight you are now. He loves you for you and that is way is important.

If you end up hating the pictures, have a big vow renewal at 5 or 10 years and go all out!

Also, I would google Intuitive Eating (I am reading the F**K It Diet right now). There is no such thing as food addiction and they will help you come to terms with and love the body you have now.
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Savvy August 2021
o1234 · on February 18, 2020 at 9:40 AM
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Don't underestimate the results you can get in 7 months!! I don't think you should postpone your wedding, but don't discount what you are able to do before your wedding. Believe in yourself and take it one day at a time

I have struggled with weight my whole life too, but by just focusing on more protein and fueling my body with the right foods it started to melt off. Since then I have started studying a lot about nutrition, and it's actually pretty amazing how much you can eat and get results, so don't let a love of food scare you!! If you ever have any questions on a good place to start you can always send me a message!!
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Dedicated March 2021
Jami · on February 18, 2020 at 10:00 AM
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I would say start working on yourself now you have 8 months even if you dont lose 100 pounds even losing 40 pounds would make you feel better. dont postpone the wedding just cut out carbs sodas anything thats junk.
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Dedicated September 2021
Patrice · on February 20, 2020 at 6:33 AM
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First of all, you're absolutely right...he loves you and wants you. :-)
It sounds like you're struggling with some things you aren't personally happy with yourself and that frustration, anger, embarrassment, etc. is projecting onto how you're viewing external opportunities. So the solution isn't going to be whether or not you say I do this year or even next year...the solution is with you and you alone. Have you shared your concerns with your FH or someone you love and trust? I've actually been to therapy and have been enjoying the sessions...and the therapy isn't about me getting married at all, it's about the struggle I sometimes have with depression. Mental health is so important and my own weight has been jeopardized because I tend to put a lot on myself...the superwoman syndrome.
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