I’m 25 and i no longer think i want a wedding anymore.

I was in the same situation when FH and I first got engaged, he was also married once before. I'm sure he is excited too but end the end most (not all) men just want to save the money and use it toward their family. If you FH is like mine, I'm sure he rather use it on a trip for the both of you then a one day celebration that is paying for others to join. What we decided to do is a planned elopement, so I still get to do all the planning, I still get to have a dress, I got to pick out a chapel I am in love and we get to have a better honeymoon because we are paying so much money as before.

Could you do something in between the two? A casual immediate-family-only BBQ in someone's backyard in a simple dress, no decorations, no bridal party, easy and simple and affordable. Then you won't have to miss that moment with your dad or go through all the traditional wedding hurdles.

Second this idea. a sweet and simple micro wedding seems like the perfect compromise for you.

Edit...***We aen't paying as much money as before***

How far are you in your planning process? If you've put down any deposits with vendors, especially a venue, you need to speak with them immediately about whether or not they have a refund policy. If any of them do, then you need to talk with your fiancé and with your dad about what you really want to do. I'm sure they'll understand, especially if you think they already know on some level. They'll thank you for your honesty in the end. Then you check back with your vendors and tell them you want to cancel. That's assuming, however, that they're able to refund you. If you're not that far in the planning process, though, you're probably good. If you've already made some deposits that are non-refundable, then take whatever you still have to do, and scale it back to somewhere between the courthouse and a big traditional wedding. Maybe your vendors can even work with you to tone things down a bit.