Marissa
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Illinois Summer brides

Marissa, on April 24, 2020 at 11:30 PM Posted in Illinois Planning 0 10
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How鈥檚 everyone holding up? I鈥檓 so conflicted. I know everyone else is feeling the same but I want to vent to someone other than family 馃ぃ


I鈥檓 supposed to get married in about 90 days (7/25). Really don鈥檛 want to postpone, I鈥檝e been waiting 3.5 years to get married due to being in school. I do have all vendors on backup for November because that was the soonest backup date they all had available. I don鈥檛 want to sound self absorbed but I really don鈥檛 want to reschedule... it doesn鈥檛 seem like the sickness is going anyway anytime too soon so I don鈥檛 even know if that date is going to be any better. To be honest I am not willing to wait another year, that鈥檚 just that. I鈥檒l get married in the courthouse before I wait that long to get married. I would definitely chop down the guest list. I just don鈥檛 want to give the day up for both my fianc茅 and i since we have been waiting so long. I鈥檓 supposed to decide by June about rescheduling and the stay at home order was just extended to end of May here. I鈥檓 not sure whether to be optimistic. What are other Illinois summer gals doing?

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on May 1, 2020 at 5:29 PM
  • Marissa
    Dedicated July 2020
    Marissa
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    I should also add, the fact that we are learning that warm weather stifles the virus is adding to my hopes since it's a summer wedding. But I don't want to get my hopes up too high...

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  • Laura
    Rockstar September 2020
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    Mine was Aug 7 - I chose to just have a fancy micro-wedding. We can visit people when it's safe. Honestly, I just wanted off the Covid ride. I was over the uncertainty - the constant sharing of new dates and arrangements that never happened. Instead it will be he and I and our 3 sons, pretty chapel, wonderful photographer, flowers... and a dinner after. And that's that. It's my 2nd marriage though - so all the family pressure is off.

    Only you will know how you feel. I just needed to know when I was getting married and that it was actually happening. I've had 4 dates though... and that contributed a lot to the angst. May then June (for family to attend), then August - Covid, and now September....

    Hang in there! ps. I'm in Missouri.

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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
    Andrea
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    Ugh IL is the worst! We鈥檙e getting married on our original date (7 days away!) in IL but obviously we鈥檝e had to change plans drastically. Private ceremony at home streamed live for our original 150+ guests.
    I wouldn鈥檛 think we would still be locked down in July, but you really never know. Now the extension is until the end of May, which of it really ends then will give everyone the whole month of June to start to get back to normal. Honestly though, idk if I see the governor lifting the 10 person max ban, or if he does I doubt he鈥檒l allow for gatherings over 50, so I would definitely keep that in mind.
    Good luck!!
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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
    Nicole
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    I鈥檓 on the same boat as you. Our wedding is 8/1. I don鈥檛 want to wait until next year to get married. We have all our vendors, just not the groom/groomsmen鈥檚 tux. At this point I honestly don鈥檛 care who shows up to our wedding if it happens. I don鈥檛 care if it鈥檒l just be us and 10 people or just us alone. I鈥檓 just worried about my dress that was suppose to start alterations this month and now I鈥檓 worried there won鈥檛 be enough time for it to be altered. I鈥檓 really waiting it out til the last straw to see if we can still get married on our date. I鈥檓 waiting for our venue to reach out because I feel that if we were the first to reach out, they would make us pay for cancelling. I wouldn鈥檛 mind postponing our reception, but the thing is we have no idea when this will all end so what if we postpone until next year and it still won鈥檛 happen. I鈥檓 just over it.
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  • Hayley
    Beginner May 2020
    Hayley
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    I鈥檓 in OH, so the start of our state opening up starts May 1 - but it will be in phases. My wedding is August 22.. I am still holding out hope that it will be good for then and I also feel the same way that we have been waiting along time for this and I don鈥檛 want to postpone! I think the best months will be July, August, September and then we could have a second wave.


    Our back up plan is still to get married August 22 with basically immediate family and friends (a lot of venues here are doing elopement packages) and then have our reception party with everyone next year..Mainly because everything is already paid for (our original date was May 16)
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    We just gave in and rescheduled. Our wedding was supposed to be in November, but the way this thing is panning out, I don鈥檛 think things will be back to normal by then. They are predicting a second huge spike in cases as soon as they open things back up- so if things go as planned, they will open up by beginning of June, and by July we will be in the same position we are in now. And if it follows the same trajectory, that means we are back in the red zone until October/November. They are also saying warm weather likely won鈥檛 slow down the virus much- it would likely have to be consistently in the 100s to slow it down, if even then. Multiple Illinois government officials are basically planning for no large gatherings the rest of 2020 馃槙 We thought about trying to keep our Fall date, but it just seems very very highly unlikely we will get to have our 鈥渄ream wedding鈥 that we鈥檝e been planning for 2 years if we keep that date. We鈥檝e put too much time, money, energy and love into this, so we made the difficult decision to postpone until fall of 2021 to ensure we never look back on our wedding with regret. If you really want to hold out for your date, and rescheduling isn鈥檛 an option for you, then I say just lay low and see how things pan out. I would definitely have your contingency plan in place ASAP though- whether that鈥檚 a courthouse wedding, a wedding with 10 people or less, a zoom wedding, etc. I鈥檇 figure out all those logistics now so that you鈥檙e not scrambling at the last minute and feel like your wedding was just scraped together. You don鈥檛 want to look back at this once in a lifetime event with regret!
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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Our wedding is in September and we are also not wanting to wait another year to get married. We have decided to keep our date for now and we will do something small and reschedule the reception for next year if needed. We want to celebrate with everyone so we will get everything we want just different than we had planned.
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  • Caitlin
    Devoted June 2021
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    We are getting married 8-15 in Illinois and am holding out hope. So stressful Smiley sad
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  • S
    Beginner October 2020
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    Our date is 7/25/20 but I have all vendors with a back up date of July 10, 2021.


    As much as I don't want to postpone I think we are going to do it. Since Illinois is extended until May 30, I don't think by July 25 things will be 100% normal and I dont want guests to have to worry about social distancing or wearing masks and gloves, it just seems like a sad vision to have on what is supposed to be the happiest day !!

    Also because of everything being shut down we're missing out on all the fun stuff of: building a registry (with the actual scanner- I know we can do it online)/having a bridal shower with all the fun silly games/ bachelorette party/ rehersal dinner.

    We've been together for almost 11 years so it would be nice to finally get married but we also want to do it with our friends and family around us so this is why we're planning on postponing.

    As well as the threat of the virus spiking again.

    Good luck to everyone!! Who would have thought all of this planning and now having to sit on it all for another year.....

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  • Kelsey
    Just Said Yes March 2021
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    I'm an Illinois bride (Aurora/Naperville area) with a scheduled wedding date of July 18 2020, but I am speaking with my venue next week about postponing. Right now my venue is only letting July weddings postpone to dates in January/February/March though, which is obviously not ideal haha.


    I live in Texas right now, and we're slowly "opening" but barely, and still no large events of 50+ will be taking place here for the forseeable future. Illinois has been even more stringent, so even though I expect things in Illinois will start to open by then, the possibility of being able to hold a 200+ person wedding (as mine is planned) in July just seems so small to me.

    I totally understand the brides that are cutting their guest lists to be smaller, and I think that is such a creative solution! In my case, we are only holding the wedding for our families anyways so we decided we would rather postpone and have the full celebration than reduce the list. Wishing you all the best possible outcomes as we navigate this time!

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