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Ignoring RVSP "add-ons"

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Ms2Mrs1029, on July 19, 2016 at 4:20 PM

I'm thinking ahead with my RSVP process and such...So I already know that I will have people who "write in" uninvited guests when they return their RSVP cards. Just because I know that's how some of my family and friends operate from functions we've had in the past. So I was wondering what if I don't even acknowledge whoever they write in...so when they go to pick up their escort card they just won't have one. Is that too much??

I'm just trying to be as stress free as possible and I just can't be bothered with rude people. I'm just at that point.

Same for those who don't RSVP...I'm not going to call and hunt you down. If you're rude and can't be bothered to send back an ALREADY STAMPED envelope or hop online and respond there, then I can't be bothered to figure out if you're interested in coming or not. You just won't have an escort card when you go to pick one up.

Am I being to blunt/rude?? Or do I need to reconsider this plan?

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VIP August 2016
MrsF2B · on July 19, 2016 at 5:27 PM
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I'm only just starting to get RSVPs back, and I agree it's annoying when people add on friends (one family has apparently decided each of their three children - under 10 years old! - gets to bring a little friend!) but it's better to deal with it now. Calling them and telling them no on a random Tuesday afternoon is way less stressful in the long run than dealing with three hungry and grouchy children trying to get into a party 5 hours from their home only to find out that haven't been invited and there's no food for them on my wedding day!
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VIP November 2016
Sylvia751 · on July 19, 2016 at 5:37 PM
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I get the knee-jerk reaction to be like "Hey! No, go fuck yourself!" to guests who are rude and assuming...but it's going to lead to more stress and hassle on your wedding day.

Either call and explain that you don't have room for add-on's, or expect them to be there.
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Expert December 2016
Rebecca · on July 19, 2016 at 5:38 PM
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I think dealing with unexpected guests is the LAST thing you'd want to be doing on your wedding day. If it's too stressful, it's ok to designate a person to handle follow up calls for you. A friend, sister, or someone else you trust who has a polite but firm demeanor. Let them be the deliverer of bad news if you don't want to. Minimizing stress is ok. Delegate, if you must. Just make sure there is follow up.
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