If you get invited to a wedding but cannot attend, do you still send a gift?

I normally do, and it's price is based on how well I know the couple.

Honestly, for me it depends on the couple. If it's a close family member/friend, then yes I would still send something.

I was invited to an online friends wedding once and did not attend and did not send a gift. I felt a little guilty for not sending a gift but we weren't that close and cash was tight that month.

I always send a gift if invited even if I can't attend (unless it's super obvious that the only reason I was invited was as a gift grab).

Hahaha! Can't say I've ever sent a gift for a wedding I wasn't invited to lol.

In this particular instance it's a cousin who we don't really see that often. We see them at weddings & funerals and that's pretty much it.

Only if i really like them.

Yes, you should! At this stage in life I would absolutely send a gift (maybe a smaller gift if money was an issue $40-80 dollars). But I have also been known to be distracted regarding a few weddings that I had to pass on attending that I know I didn't send a gift to...and regardless of not getting to it...in my head it eats away at me that I didn't send a gift.

I probably wouldn't unless I was really close to them.

In that case, I would send a nice card to congratulate them and a $25 gift card to wherever they are registered.

Last time some friends invited us, but we're not very close so I just sent them a $25 gift card and a card. You should send a card either way, I think. We've had a few guests that can't come to our wedding that have sent gifts (but they were cousin/close family friend). I was surprised by their generousity.

Personally we just got gifts from 2 couples who won't be able to attend ur wedding, and I was pretty shocked. One was a fairly close cousin to FH who lives in florida, she sent us baking stuff I had on my registry. The other was a couple who is friends with FH's parents, I've never even met them before, they sent a $50 check. So I'd say it would be really nice to send them something, but don't feel bad if you dont....if that helps at all lol

I personally would not send anything in your case. You see them at weddings and funerals. You don't have a "relationship" with them otherwise, right?

Well I saw my cousin a lot when we were younger for Christmases and other big holidays but he stopped coming around as he got older. His parents still come around a lot, I'm not sure that they are on good terms.

Only if I really like them, but usually not or else I would be there.

Exception: One of my cousins got married in February and I really don't care for him (he promised to help me move one day and when it came to be there he didnt show up or call back me or my mom to say he wasn't going to be there or even after to explain why and what happened).

I didn't go to their shower, but my mom still put my name on the gift with her and my sister and told me after. A few weeks later my mom asked me if had gotten a thank you card and said that she got hers a week ago. So then I'm pissed about that. The wedding invite came and I didn't care to drive almost two hours away from home in a Michigan winter and find someone to watch my dogs so I declined the RSVP via text as I lost the card.

Just to be a witch, I sent them $50 in a card in the mail with a note written in it to be sure to let me know that they had received it as I had not seen anything regarding their shower gift. It was nice and "sweet" and got my point across (that you don't NOT thank someone for their gift) and I got a thank you card a couple days after the wedding.

I do like them, I just can't afford for FH & I to both take off work a day AND drive two hours each way AND get a hotel room for the night which attending would require us to do. If I was closer to them I'd probably do all those things.