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Cassi
Super October 2019

If you could do it again?

Cassi, on June 19, 2019 at 1:45 PM Posted in Planning 1 27

Calling all Brides past and future! If you could plan you wedding again what would you change? How much time did you leave yourself for planning? What would you have started earlier/later if you had to do it all again?


Personally I wouldn't have worried as much about booking vendors too early because it was that much more time to pay off. I'm still 4 months away from our date and we are budgeting hardcore and not spending any extra money so we can make sure its all paid off in time. Its not unmanageable (together FH and I make a pretty decent living) but it sucks not having the ability to go do things because we are worried about having enough money to pay everything off.

I would have just put as much down on things as I could in the get go instead of saying no its too early this and that. I would have also planned centerpieces and flowers and everything earlier so I wouldn't be scrambling to add them in our budget. We ended up doing sola wood flowers which I love but I didn't know what I was getting into so I have had to make multiple orders not realizing how much it actually takes to make things. But those are just minor details ultimately it all comes back to money ahha!

I started planning 14 months prior to our date but didn't actually book any vendors besides my venue and photographer until March. I booked those a year in advance because its their busy season in October where we are getting married so those were the first two things with dates filling up. I also bought my dress in november which sucked because anticipation but glad because it needed to be ordered. It came in in April and I just paid it off a few weeks ago and have plenty of time for alterations if needed! Smiley smile


Lets hear yours!

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Latest activity by Breanna, on June 20, 2019 at 4:22 AM
  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    I wouldn't change a thing! Everything went smooth and the weather was perfect. Couldn't have asked for a better day. The Lord was definitely looking out for us.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    I tell my friends to try to keep it small and simple.
    I don't think I'd have really changed anything either... But I had a big wedding like 250 people so it was hard to be able to socialize with everyone. That's sort of why I say if you can keep it small then try to ahah. I had entrance photos so it means we stand there and greet guests and take a photo with them so it was nice because it gives people a moment with us but it was also a lot of work because it's like an hour or so of standing.
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  • Justine
    Super July 2019
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    We haven’t had our wedding yet (almost 3 weeks away!!) but if we did this all over again, I’d go with a destination wedding.
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  • MD
    Super July 2019
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    I would've strongly urged my FH to let us do a destination wedding somewhere on a beach. I just hate wasting so much time and money on little details that guests aren't truly going to care about, but ones that if they were missing it would be tacky, like table cloths, center pieces, and signs. We're going to the Bahamas for our honeymoon, so at least I still get the beach there.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Uhg I promise its not much easier (depending on immediate family size) haha. We are in FL and FH family is in FL and GA. My family is all in NY. We decided to do TN in the mountains (which is our yearly vacation spot for FH and I anyways, we love it there). Our guest list is still over 100 but I do have to say if we did it local it would have been like 300.

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  • Justine
    Super July 2019
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    Wow! Our destination wedding would have been Mexico or Jamaica. We’d only invite close family!
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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
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    I’m not married yet but the two things I would change if I could do it again would be putting my foot down on FMIL’s personal guest list and not getting married the same year i’m Graduating grad school and is getting our first house
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    At this point there isn’t anything that I would change. We’re doing a DW and the majority of vendors are included through the hotel. So we really only have to select a DJ & our cocktail hour entertainment... Which makes it nice. So I’ve been actually enjoying the engagement stage with little planning to do besides decor (and those ideas are already known). It’s great!!!
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Yeah my best friend got married in the grand caymans during a week long cruise and it was just immediate family and our other good friend and it was beautiful. I would probably consider that option if I had to do it all over but I am pleased with the smokies because its beautiful!

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Yeah thats a lot going on. Congrats though. I have come to learn you cant change outside circumstances. We were trying to buy before the wedding now we are waiting till after but if its not one thing its another so there will always be something. But congrats again!

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  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
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    The ONLY thing I would change is the venue- and guest count. Smaller venue smaller guest number. Something intimate.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Wow that's awesome! I have enjoyed the planning its been fun and has kept me super busy and exciting though. i just wish I started earlier. I don't think many brides can say they haven't had to worry about to much so thats awesome for you!

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    I've heard that a lot lately. I'm sure I will be saying the same thing come my wedding day haha not my venue but probably guest count haha

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    Dedicated August 2019
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    The only two things I would change is blocking off hotel rooms more in advance (at the beginning) of planning & not involve the grooms parents as much as I allowed to. They caused a lot of stress during this entire planning and kind of ruined the experience. I would have been straight up telling them that we would let them know when they can help. When they did help they would fight about everything and it wasn’t worth it trying to make them happy.
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Oh i understand that. My FH mother tried involving herself a lot because he is an only child so her only chance at a wedding. I let her interject sometimes but I definitely wish I told her when more often. She has gotten better because I started turning down the help instead of allowing it because I felt bad. Her intentions were good but she is just very different than me with VERY different taste. I wanted our wedding favor to be cool coozies (I have a crafting business so I was gonna make them myself) and when she asked about it (she was set on jordan almonds) I told her what I was thinking and she rolled her eyes and said "I'd have no use for that" and said it was trashy. We are getting married in a barn I thought it was cute and would go with the theme.. oh well.. I think we are doing homemade apple butter now! Smiley laugh

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  • J
    Savvy July 2019
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    It's easy to say to keep it small and simple, but that's very hard to do. We wanted a small-ish wedding, too, but also felt guilty leaving people out.....I would have liked a smaller guest list, but not at the expense of hurt feelings.....and even though I feel like we cut a lot of things (centerpieces, limos, etc), it is still costing waaaaay more than we are comfortable with, but it's hard to change that as well. The venue alone is a huge amount of it, and there's not much you can do about that if you want it at a nice place.

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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
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    Yeah, my FH got a grant for our house that was basically the entire down payment and my credit score isn’t so great so the house is going on his name for lower mortgage rates and such. We actually put a bid on yesterday. It’s just so stressful because it’s a half an hour north of where we are now and my internship is already 3 hours south of us and it’s just a lot. Luckily I planned the vendors and everything very early on so we don’t have much to do for a bit wedding wise
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Yeah when we first started planning we thought our guest list was 50 MAX and after putting just immediate family on that was my side of the family ahah (i'm one of 6). Yeah we definitely are spending way more than we would have liked but hey you only do it once (hopefully). My brother who is very non-chalant gave me the best advice. If you are set on something and aren't going to kill yourself finacially you need to do it because if you don't you will have so many regrets. I've kept that as my philosophy. We actually came over our budget (we set 12k budget and in total are ending around 16,500 not including minor things like wedding party gifts and what not) but My mother paid for our venue which was 3200 and my FMIL paid for our transportation (675 and our bar 510) so that helped and actually put us back under budget and honestly the wedding itself was only like 7k (including my dress) we just got a 9 bedroom cabin for us and the wedding party for a few days before and a few days after the wedding so we had everyone together to enjoy the occasion and that was almost 6k after taxes and cleaning fees and what not.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    Wow thats awesome at least! Everything ends up working out in the end just don't forget that! Smiley smile It will all be worth it and yeah at least theres not a lot of planning left vendor wise that was one of my biggest stressers because it seemed everyone I messaged was booked (and it was almost a year in advance!)

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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
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    I had a year and a half and towards the end there was a bit of a rush with money as well trying to figure out all last minute payments and we had some extra expenses in the end as well. Always last minute things that come up. If I had to do it again I would of switch my job a lot sooner. I was afraid of the change and comfortable where I was but wasn’t making much. It would have made a difference those extra 7 months. I would also had a much longer engagement because I truly miss the planning lol. Maybe I’m crazy.
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