Jennifer
Dedicated April 2011

Ideas to honor deceased parent...

Jennifer, on April 26, 2011 at 12:21 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18
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My father passed away 7 years ago. My sister keeps bugging me about putting a picture of my father at the ceremony and reception (and my mother isn't objecting). I think the idea is creepy. My ceremony is short, at an outdoor state park with no decorations and I don't want a 'shrine' to a deceased person at my wedding or reception. I thought about putting together a collage or something with pictures from both FH and my families, but FH didn't like the idea. Now time is running out (4 days to go)! Anyone have any ideas on how I can honor my dad to appease my family in a last minute time-cruch?

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Latest activity by CandiM, on July 27, 2012 at 11:03 AM
  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
    Hayley C™ ·
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    I'm sorry for you loss..

    You can put a little note in the program if you are doing programs.

    You can get those little charms that you can put a picture in, and attach it to your bouquet.

    You can leave an empty chair where he would have been sitting, and put a rose on it.

    You can have the officiant say a little something about those that can not be with you today - moment of silence?

    Good luck these last few days.

    For Dad....

    Dear Lord please clear a spot for him:

    he should have the perfect view.

    His little girl's a Bride today,

    and I am counting on you.

    Let me feel his presence;

    as I journey down the aisle.

    But let me notice his abscence;

    if only for a while.

    Let me stop to think of him;

    As I am given away.

    And know that if he could;

    he would be here with me today.

    Dear Lord please clear a spot for him;

    he should have the perfect view.

    And if he should get sad today;

    Dear Lord I count on you.


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  • Miya
    Master December 2011
    Miya ·
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    What about setting a little table up with a plate setting (plate, fork, knife, spoon, glass) and then putting a candle on the plate. Then next to it you could have a long card with say, a poem paying tribute to your dad (with maybe a photo included).

    Also, I like Hayley's idea of putting a rose.

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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated April 2011
    Jennifer ·
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    Those are great ideas. Thanks ladies!

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  • sailingnurseMD
    VIP September 2011
    sailingnurseMD ·
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    Both of FH's parents are deceased. I am putting one rose each on two chairs in the front row of our outdoor ceremony. I am also making a memorial candle and placing it near our card box/signature frame.

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  • Nicolle
    Dedicated July 2011
    Nicolle ·
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    Hayley~ I love the poems that you find and post on here! :-) Do you know of anything special to write in our programs to honor and remember my fiance's father and my two grandfathers?

    We are going to have a little something said during our ceremony, and I am also putting together a small memorial table at our reception.

    Just looking for something special to write in our programs....thanks! :-)

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  • CandiM
    VIP June 2011
    CandiM ·
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    My father passed away in September and we are getting married in June. So it will be front and center on everyone's mind. I was going to have the pastor say something about loved one's that are no longer here. Brief though and have a memorial candle during the cermony.

    I love the poem though, absolutely love it! Thanks for sharing.

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  • Tara
    Expert April 2013
    Tara ·
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    A rose on the chair would be very pretty.... or what about a place setting with a black napkin?



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  • K & H
    Expert September 2011
    K & H ·
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    My FH father passed away almost 11 years ago, we are creating a poem with a picture of his father in the background that will be displayed on a stand next to a candle that his mom will light when she is escorted into the ceremony.

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  • Paris
    Super August 2011
    Paris ·
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    I am having a sister walk down the aisle in my mother place and light the unity candle for my mom. we will also have a table with a memorial candle and small candles that we will light with her pic. me n the hubby will light and do a moment of silence

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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated April 2011
    Jennifer ·
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    Thank you ladies for all of the ideas!

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  • Kelsey
    Super March 2011
    Kelsey ·
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    Here is what I did for my grandparents



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  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
    Hayley C™ ·
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    @ Nicolle C and anyone else...

    Although we cannot see you,

    We know that you are here.

    We feel the warmth of your smile,

    And can sense that you are near.

    We want for you to know,

    Your love is still our guide,

    Memories carried in our hearts,

    You are always at our side.

    It's so sad you will not be here,

    On the day we say "I do",

    And so we say our vows today,

    In loving memory of you.

    -or -

    Although we can not see you

    We know you are here

    Smiling down,

    Watching over us,

    As we say "I Do."

    You will always stay

    Forever in our lives,

    Memories in our hearts,

    We will think of you in silence

    As we say our vows today.

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  • Nicolle
    Dedicated July 2011
    Nicolle ·
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    Thank you, Hayley! :-) I love them ~ they are great! Do you think that I should include something under it....with their names? How would you word it?

    Your help is SO appreciated! You are awesome!

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  • S
    Just Said Yes October 2009
    Sofia ·
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    Ideas always have some meaning, It shows the person creativity, new idea gives you the inspiration ....................... that's why I always honor the new ideas.

    It would be great honer for me if any one suggest me the idea that how I increases the custom water bottle supply in any event or party

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  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
    Hayley C™ ·
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    Any combination of these....

    With much thought and consideration,

    we have chosen a special way to say “Thank You”

    for sharing our wedding day with us.

    In commemoration of our wedding day,

    we have made a donation to

    The _______ Society

    And the

    _________ Association.

    These donations are made in your honor

    In loving memory of

    Bob Smith ..... Grandfather of the Bride

    Tom Jones ..... Grandfather fo the Bride

    Mary Thomas .... Grandmother of the Groom

    We feel the finest gift is one,

    which helps others live longer and healthier lives.

    We truly appreciate your being

    part of our lives and this special day.

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  • Leyila
    VIP August 2011
    Leyila ·
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    My dad died of lung cancer a year ago. It is sooo hard for me knowing he won't be here to walk me down the aisle. So I am reserving a chair in his honor at the end of the aisle and when I reach his chair in my processional I will pause to place a single rose on his chair. My son will walk me down the aisle in his stead.

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  • 2011 Mrs. Brown
    VIP September 2011
    2011 Mrs. Brown ·
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    Leyila...my dad died of Lung Cancer in 2008!!!!!!! It's VERY hard planning a wedding without him!! But it soothing to know he cared dearly for my fiance and loved him like a son.

    Hayley I'm DEFINITELY using that 1st poem!!! THANKS!!!!

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  • CandiM
    VIP June 2011
    CandiM ·
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    Leyila and Mrs. Brown, my father passed in September last year from lung cancer. I understand how hard it is planning a wedding knowing my dad won't be there. Leyila I love your idea! I may have to steal it.

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