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Savvy July 2019

i won't be able to wear any makeup for my wedding 😱 (help me)

Charlotte, on July 17, 2019 at 7:44 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 49

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I'm in a really big predicament here and I just don't know what to do. I had to get a biopsy done to check for skin cancer. They took some skin from all over my face and left me with scars and bruises but the worst part is that I can't wear ANY makeup for at least a week. I didn't think it was going to be a big deal so I didn't research the procedure and now I'm totally lost. After it was done my Doctor just dropped "oh by the way you won't be able to wear makeup for a week." I can't put ANYTHING on my face except soap and water and my wedding is this Friday in two days. I'm a full face everyday girl so most people going to the wedding have never seen me without my makeup and with the new scars I can't even look at my reflection in the mirror. I have family from out of state who are here already and took off from work to be at our wedding and now I don't even want to go. I've called my doctor earlier today explaining the situation and she said I'd absolutely be at risk of infection if I wore makeup even for one day before it heals. I'm so stupid for scheduling this right before my wedding. I don't even know what I was thinking. Now I have the choice of getting married looking like a zombie or calling off the wedding entirely which I don't think I can do to everyone. I tried my dress on earlier without makeup and before I felt so beautiful in it but now it just feels like a cruel joke. I know you probably think I'm being overdramatic but I'm never without makeup not even to the grocery store. I have literally no eyebrows or eyelashes without makeup and gross skin. I feel so naked I just want to lock myself in my room and sleep through the wedding. Sorry for this poorly written rant. I'm hoping someone here can come up with a way I can get married without looking too scary but I'm not sure if that's possible!

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Dedicated September 2019
Sasha · on July 17, 2019 at 7:49 PM
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Screw it and load up on makeup as planned.
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 7:53 PM
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I'm really considering that but I am worried about getting an infection and my fiance doesn't want me to risk it.
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ASMini914 · on July 17, 2019 at 7:53 PM
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Can you really wear no makeup, or no makeup over the scars? Can you still wear falsies and some eye stuff at least?
I am so sorry!
But to the point that PP said... what does infection mean? Like life threatening infection? Can you put like ointment or something on and then airbrush makeup and hope for the best? is it really all over your face, or are there just areas to avoid? I would ask my doctor what the worst case scenario would be if I didn't wear makeup until that day, and then put makeup on for a few hours, and then took it off (maybe taking it off after dinner or during dinner or something)?
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Formerbride · on July 17, 2019 at 7:57 PM
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If it's possible to use mascara, I'd do that. That is one piece of makeup that changes everything in my mind. Other than that, maybe wearing your hair down and loosely curled will give you a softer look. It would look wacky if you had elaborate hair and no makeup, imo. I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't wear makeup but I can imagine anyone they wears makeup daily would feel naked without it.
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Melissa · on July 17, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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Are you going on your honeymoon the day after the wedding? If not, I would chance it a little. Like definitely eye makeup and lipstick if they did not take skin from those areas. I would also (as per previous poster) ask worst case scenario about the infection possibility and what that would entail. If it’s not an awful type infection, I would chance it and do light makeup where the spots are and as others have said, maybe rinse off after dinner and cake cutting and all big moment pics are done.
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:01 PM
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I talked to my doctor about it for a while. I got scraped in the eyelids too and actually have a black eye now so I can't even wear eye makeup of falsies. The procedure they do to test for skin cancer is notorious for causing infections and some can get really bad to the point where it's dangerous. My doctor advised I wear sunglasses or something or just go full faced. She seemed to think makeup was a bad idea even after stressing how important it was to me.😭
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:03 PM
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Thank you. My doctor said no mascara ether 😭
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Formerbride · on July 17, 2019 at 8:06 PM
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Aw. I'm so sorry. Here's a thought, I remember when my brother had really bad cystic acne in high school his senior pictures were airbrushed. Maybe if you can't look the way you want on the day of the wedding, you can look the way you want in your edited photos.
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:07 PM
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Thank you 😞 if I do go we will definitely get the pictures edited.
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Alyrae · on July 17, 2019 at 8:11 PM
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I would wear the make up then make sure u really wash your face after really good
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Future Mrs. Petro · on July 17, 2019 at 8:20 PM
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How big is the scar? Can you put one of those pimple patches on it to protect it and then make up as usual? Or just screw it and wear makeup. But I would buy all new product and brushes to prevent any possibility of bacteria and infection. You will figure something out that you feel comfortable with and LOOK BEAUTIFUL! don't stress!
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:26 PM
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There's a couple of scars all around my face.
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Devoted November 2019
Heather · on July 17, 2019 at 8:32 PM
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Yeah I would probably go full faced makeup and wash up multiple times as soon as I can. It's such an important day. However, I believe your dr would try to accommodate you if it was safe. Tough call. I'm sorry you are in this predicament. Remember it's about committing to the man you love and he loves you enough to put your health first. Lucky girl in that regard.
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Sara · on July 17, 2019 at 8:33 PM
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Can you wear a birdcage veil and cover your face?

What is the concern with the makeup just infection? Get all new makeup all new makeup brushes use hypoallergenic products like Clinique, but honestly it sounds like your going to just have to live with it.

I hope everything comes back normal. Good luck.
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Dwedding2020 · on July 17, 2019 at 8:35 PM
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Make sure you use brand new makeup and disinfected makeup brushes
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:37 PM
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The veil is a good idea! Apparently makeup gets into the open cuts and clogs up the pores so when the skin grows back over it some residue is stuck.
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:39 PM
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Thanks 😞 My doctor seemed to think wearing makeup is a big risk and she was married recently so she knows what it's like. Really tough.
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Sara · on July 17, 2019 at 8:39 PM
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Do birdcage and try to be confident. Fake it to u make it! You got this. You are going to be beautiful and have a great time.
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Savvy July 2019
Charlotte · on July 17, 2019 at 8:41 PM
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Birdcage? What does that mean?
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Kelly · on July 17, 2019 at 8:46 PM
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Okay 1. Your doctor is super irresponsible for not telling you this. I'm a sickly person at the doctor's all the time and they NEED to tell paitents before surgery even if minor about these things. I'd absolutely chew the doctor out for being so irresponsible, even if it wasn't your wedding it's just bad practice.
If it's open wounds there isn't much you can do, you can try a crushed aspirin paste for reducing swelling and redness.
I guess a lot depends on what sort of infection they're talking about, a little redness or serious antibodics. Skin cancer runs in my family and we've never had to hold off on skincare unless it required stiches or deep cutting, so if they did that deep of a procedure on your face I'm not sure I could blame you for trying to postpone. That's a fairly major medical procedure. Generally you're supposed to rest and avoid sun after, are you feeling okay?
Overall sunglasses, a hairstyle down, photo editing, birdcage veil come to mind.
Worst comes to worst you can do a vow renewal and do more photos then.
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