I wasn't invited...... (Etiquette Question)

I would have your FH ask the friend just to be sure its silly for you to go to the mall just so he has a ride

This situation may be a little awkward. Are the couple getting married not aware of you? Is FH close friends to this couple? I guess the question should go back to the two of you. If FH is close enough and wants to go to this wedding then he should go. How he gets there would be a personal decision. Do you mind driving him out there? Can you make it a weekend trip since it's 4 hours away? Is there other public transportation available for FH?

It definitely is effort if you drive him but it's your FH It just comes down to if he really wants to attend the wedding.

If he is close enough with the couple could he ask if his invitation is okay for a plus one? Did they overlook it by accident?

Do what you feel most comfortable with. You shouldn't have to bend over backwards for this couple but you can always think of it as doing something nice for FH.

Good luck!

Tricia

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I wouldnt take him, i think its rude to invite him and leave FW out. do they know that he's engaged? hanging around somewhere for 4hr until the wedding is over will not be an option for me.

Although typically you should never add your own plus one

Lol @ Just Lizzie that was my thought!

So sticky. i don't want to show up uninvited

This is sticky as we all know there are reasons why we dont allow plus ones.. but if he has no way to get there with out you make its very sticky.. not sure what i would do

Can you borrow your car to the friend? He can drive and you use his car at home?

Yikes...your FH committed a big wedding no-no. You need to talk to this couple before their wedding. Yes, their eyes probably rolled when they saw what he did to his response card. HOWEVER...if they are just planning to grin and bear it, and if you haven't heard back from them yet to say "actually, we only invited you, not your fiance, sorry," they probably just made room for you on their guest list. The only thing that would make me more irritated than someone adding their own plus one would be someone adding their own plus one, having to pay for that person, and then having that person not even show up! I would make FH call the couple and find out what their expectation is at this point.

Agree with Rose 100%!!! I would be so mad if someone added a plus one, we made room for them and then they didn't show!!! Just have FH speak with his friend. Or get the email or number of his friend's FW......you can bond bride to bride.....tell her you were embarrassed to find out he had done that and ask her opinion.

Okay, FH was rude, but this couple was, too. You're not a "plus one" which is a random date generally brought along for the sake of having a date. You're his FW, and as such the two of you are a social unit and both of you should have been invited in the first place.

Last year, DH was invited to a wedding and the invite didn't mention me. He rang up the bride and groom, and politely said he was going to be engaged by the time of their wedding. They told him to of course bring me along.

Since the horse is already out of that barn, I would have your FH call whichever half of the couple he's closer to, apologize for his faux pas in adding you, and explain it was because he assumed you were invited but inadvertently left off the envelope. That gives the couple the opening to say, "Why, of course, I'm sorry we made a mistake."

This grinds my gears - couples who are married, engaged, or living together are a "social unit" and both HAVE to be invited. It's basic manners.

I'm jumping on the Rosie bandwagon too. Well said!