i want to call off the wedding

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Ahhhhh yeah it is the excitement. I get it but do you want to wait to year to see if you two are on the same page? I would say before doing anything else wedding related maybe focus on his desire to want to leave his mom's house. You two can look for a place and wedding plan.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I think we are going to do We talked about it today so I think we are going to look for a place after this virus is over

Can you share your reason for not wanting to get married anymore?

View Quoted Comment It’s not that I don’t I just think maybe we should not get married when we want to

View Quoted Comment This is pretty common actually. my friends roommate has been bugging her bf to move out and he refuses. hes a mommas boy and doesnt want to leave her. i think you should just tell him that you feel its better if u move in together first

View Quoted Comment I’m getting a place and telling him if you want to get married then you can move here

I would have a talk with him and be honest about how you are feeling. Its better to get it out of the way now rather then paying for a wedding and calling it off later. You can always postpone the wedding if you feel like the time isn't right.

I’m one of those rare ones that are not for couples living together prior to marriage, but from what it seems from one of your comments is that he’s not wanting to move out of mom’s place even after you’re married. Is it a cultural thing, does mom need help, or is he just not willing to grow up and move out? I know there are many cultures where multiple generations live together, but in America that seems harder to do. It sounds like y’all really need to talk about this. You still have time, but I would think you’d both need to have an agreement on living arrangements post wedding before moving forward with any planning.

View Quoted Comment I think we are fine coming to a agreement but it’s more because he doesn’t want to grow up he has people telling him that have a house is so hard and that’s why he doesn’t want one

View Quoted Comment Life as an adult is hard. It just is, but it’s worth it. Maybe renting is better for y’all for right now. I personally don’t like the idea of renting, but I also don’t have any room to talk on this matter as my dad is giving us his dad’s house. Papa passed away 12 years ago, but dad still owns the house, had been renting it out, but they’re moving out right now.

View Quoted Comment My mom and dad offered to buy me a house just as long as it’s by them and that’s where I want to be i mean we would have to pay my dad rent but it’s so much better then what he wants to do

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Yes, that sounds like a much better plan than living with his mom. I’d talk to him about it some more, and maybe even say that you don’t think you’re ready to move forward with wedding planning if he’s wanting you to live with his mom. It’s one thing for a couple to live with parents temporarily, but it should have an end date set from the start. I’m certainly not judging for him being there now, I’ve lived with my parents off and on for most of my adult life, and it has its significant advantages (paid off student loans much faster than the average college grad), but now it’s time for me to do my own thing.

How far would this house near your parents be from his mom?

View Quoted Comment Not far at all like 5 minutes away

View Quoted Comment That’s super close. So yeah, I’m not understanding why he doesn’t want to move? It’s a bit odd to me.