i want to call off the wedding

"I don't want to get married anymore because..."

Do you still want to be with him? Do you just want to postpone the marriage til later? Or do you want to just not be with him at all?

That's so hard. Especially when you dont want to hurt his feelings. Honesty is the best policy. I'm sorry you're feeling that way!

View Quoted Comment I just want to postpone until we can get are own place

View Quoted Comment We have been fighting a lot

View Quoted Comment Oh! In that case I would just be honest and say maybe you feel you guys aren’t ready yet for that because there’s other things you want to accomplish in your relationship first

View Quoted Comment Yeah I was thinking about doing that but he’s more excited for the wedding then I am

View Quoted Comment I guess though another thing I have to ask is why not just marry? I mean do you eventually want to marry him at all? Because you can still achieve what you want to achieve when married

View Quoted Comment I do want to marry him but he’s telling me to grow up. But he doesn’t want to move out of his moms house after we are married

View Quoted Comment Yeah it sounds like there’s some things you guys aren’t on the same page about

View Quoted Comment Yeah I can afford a place by myself I have a pretty good job but for some reason or other he doesn’t want to get a place with me

View Quoted Comment Is he himself stable?
I’ve a friend who her partner is super stable but she herself is a mess aha she’s unemployed and she just doesn’t have herself figured out yet so she said she wants that figured out before they take any further steps towards their future together so that she feels she’s an equal to him

View Quoted Comment Yes we both have good jobs he’s actually going for a better job after the coronavirus is over he has a test for it and he’s done with school and I’ve been done with school too and no matter what I end up being the bad guy because the are that I can afford I don’t he says school are not the best but my brother is a teacher at the school and we don’t have kids and my mom and dad offered to help us pay for catholic schools when we do

I would say have a real heart to heart with him. Without getting confrontational ask him why he doesn't want to get a place with you before the wedding, and maybe he'll ask you why you want a place first before the wedding. I know it might be tough but in the end if you don't want to get married right now, talk to him about postponing the wedding. Speaking out will be better in the long run than settling and going on with the wedding before you're ready.

View Quoted Comment That’s a really good idea ty 😊

View Quoted Comment Wait what??...

Maybe try couples counseling?

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Margel & Jake....I was thinking the same thing.

Hello. I read all the comments and as Melle said it does sound like you two have two different mindsets. I can say that marriage is a challenge or even living together and factoring that in with a mother in law an make it more of a challenge. My friend went through that the first year of her marriage. I would say you two should talk some things out because I see you love him and you want to hold off on the wedding but the comment that he made you should grow up is a little harsh on his end. I agree that before dropping money on a wedding you two should have a place. I would seriously ask why he wants to still live with his mother after marriage. I think you both have some compromises or things to figure out before getting married.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking that to but we do have almost year to go over it all but it’s get to be the time that we want to book a dj and stuff and my mom wants to go look at dress.