i want my dog part of the wedding and fiancé doesn’t

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We wanted our dogs in our wedding but just can’t because of the venue. I think your FH is probably thinking of the stress the day will bring. Who’s going to bring the dog? Take the dog home when you’re done? What if the dog gets scared and won’t walk or reacts poorly? Animals are a wild card. I’d think of different ways to include them, like a bouquet charm or something. I’m buying my FH socks with our dogs picture on them.

I almost get the presentation that he has some
resentment towards including your pets. Tell your fiancé that you are going to make Brooklyn as a flower girl because it will make you happy and you don’t want to look back on your wedding day and it not be as special as you wanted and do t want any regrets

View Quoted Comment I can see that side but he knows how well behaved she is. He absolutely adored our pets but i do everything for them when it comes to care and exercise. He’s just the daddy that loves them. So he knows I would take care of everything if we included her

View Quoted Comment We definitely talk and I explain why it would mean a lot to me to include her. All he says is he never pictured his wedding with dogs and just wants it about us. I understand that part but our Brooklyn isn’t going to take anything away from that

View Quoted Comment I think you might be right. He’s told me before (not on the wedding but in the past) that he doesn’t want to feel like I put the pets first over him. But I think he’ll come around. I just have to get a talk going at a good time today

We both really wanted our dog to be a part of the ceremony but the logistics just didn't work out in our favor. I brought a cat into the relationship and he brought a dog, so we both had animals of our own that we loved, but now we both love our animals just as much as the other does. I would probably be upset too if FH was totally against it if I wanted it bad enough, but on the other hand, I could see if maybe he feels like it's not as special since it seems like they are more of your pets? I think it would be a great compromise to at least take a few engagement photos with your dog. But I think if we were getting married in a church I wouldn't be too fond of FH suggesting our dog being in the ceremony because that would feel awkward to me personally. But that's just me. In short, I would talk to him about compromising at least a few engagement shoot photos.

I hope he comes around. If it’s important to you, then it shouldn’t be a big deal. Like you said, your dog won’t be taking over. If being a part of your wedding makes you happy, then she should be there. Good luck! ❤️

I hope he comes around too! I think including your dog in your engagement pictures is an excellent compromise. We have two cats and wanted to include them somehow so we had photo booth props made of their faces. It was hilarious and everyone got a kick out of it

I completely understand the frustration we had both dogs in the wedding FH favorite dog is really well behaved but my favorite dog is not well behaved. She runs away and is afraid of people so he was a bit hesitate on including her but we talked it out and he agreed we should have both. we also had them in the engagement photoshoot. I asked my cousin to walk them before the ceremony so they are calmer and one of my dogs was out cold during the ceremony that she started to snore. FH and I couldn’t stop laughing during the ceremony but it made great memories! I would maybe let him know you understand where he is coming from but ask him to try and understand where you are coming from and tell him by having that 1 dog be the flower girl is a great compromise already! You deserve to have your dog there if that’s what you want. Hope it works out

Accept that there are places your dogs belong, and places they don't. Your dogs do not know the difference between your wedding and other happy occasions. They won't feel deprived. So favor the opinion if your husband to be in this situation, which should be more important than you showing off your love for dogs.

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How adorable is that!! As a guest I think that would be the cutest thing ever and a fun way to incorporate the cats!

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Believe it or not I think he's coming around! I mentioned we'd have like hundreds of digital photos and Brooklyn will only be in a couple and he couldn't really argue with that.

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Sounds like you're not a dog person. It's not about making my pets feel deprived since we know they don't know the difference of what they are or aren't missing out on. It's that they're my world and a part of my life and pretty much included in all things I do. So I agree to disagree with you on that

View Quoted Comment Does he have a reason why he doesn’t want the dog included?

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He thought I wanted our dog included in every photo. I told him we would have hundreds of digital photos and she would just be in less than a handful. I think seeing it in that perspective made him more agreeable.

View Quoted Comment Wrong about not being a dog person. Have always had 2 except when in the Army. Stayed in apartments with extra room, not dormitories all through college and later grad school, just to accommodate my then cocker spaniel and Malamute in Boston. Now in rural area, have a Malamute, a Finnish Bear Dog, and a Northern Inuit dog, each 90-145 pounds. And for the 4 the time in 10 years, 5 NID pups, now 5 months, not perfect for breed standards, so donated by breeder, with raise to 18 months when they go for training to be seeing eye dogs in Subarctic and Arctic areas. So includes pulling people in sled or cart, being accustomed to bear, lynx, other wildlife, as well as early socialization. So I am the principal caretaker and trainer, and invest a huge amount emotionally in my dogs. . . . . But we do have agree to disagree different philosophies. Even with any 2 perfectly well behaved dogs I had in the past or currently, I always avoided bringing them to one shot deals, including our wedding or others, or graduations, it big 100 person family cookiuts and gatherings. Because even though they behave, figuring out all the new people and excessive numbers wanting to meet and play with them is stressful for the dogs. And I love them enough to want to spare them such stress. And bring them to smaller, repeated activities, so they get familiar with either the setting, it the people, nit everything different at once. They are hits at our farm stand and apple orchards, familiar settings though the visitors and customers change. It with us and 5 kids at beach, relatives etc, all people familiar just different settings. But events with lits if unfamiliar people, and unfamiliar setting, and events that do not make sense for their working dog selves or their social family selves,. NO.
A dog person, simply a different philosophy. The only involvement in our wedding was we went for a photo session just us, and the dogs, on the Inn grounds hours before the ceremony, our first look with dogs, photographer, but no strangers. They spent the actual wedding in a fenced meadow once used for horses.

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I was totally wrong! I can understand what you're saying; everyone's dogs whether they're big or small has different personalities and adjustments to social settings. Happy to hear you included your dog in some wedding photos! My main thing is I wanted to include our dog at least in engagement photos and possibly as the flower girl (if my church allows it). Then as many have mentioned - I would have a designated person to take her home after the ceremony.

Just wanted to update everyone: the Father said did not approve having our dog in the ceremony or in the church. I figured they wouldn't since it's a Catholic church but I still had to ask! So we'll just be including her in the engagement photos and a cake topper with us and all 3 of our "kids"

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LOL can you imagine if the dog was in every single shot?!

We are considering having our miniature dachshund come to the ceremony just for a handful of pictures, but haven't decided yet. He doesn't do well with a lot of people (which is why we would just do a few pictures, not include him in the ceremony), but he also doesn't do rain, or wet grass so it will be a day-of decision!