Kimberly
Expert April 2020

i want my dog part of the wedding and fiancé doesn’t

Kimberly, on July 5, 2019 at 9:14 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 42
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This is more of a vent. I’m completely obsessed with all 3 of my pets (cat and 2 dogs) and while I probably can’t involve my cat and younger dog since he’s a little rambunctious I have my small dog Brooklyn who is an angel 👼. My fiancé loves our “kids” but not to the extent I do which I’m completely fine with. I want to include Brooklyn in my ceremony as a possible flower girl - my priest is going to look into if they’ll allow a dog in a Catholic Church since they seem to be more relaxed than I imagined. My FH absolutely was not into the idea of Brooklyn being the flower girl whatsoever. Ok. So I suggested if we maybe include her in our engagement photos next week and he is against that too. I guess I’m just frustrated because I want to respect his wishes but I want him to respect and at least consider mine. I do plan on having a wedding cake topper with the two of us and all the pets and a little station with them by the guestbook area.

What would you guys do if you were in my shoes? Just accept it? I know it’s probably a little hard to understand my frustration if you don’t see your pets as your “babies” the way I do 😕

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  • Angela
    Expert June 2019
    Angela ·
    We had our dog as our flower girl! Wouldn’t have had it any other way. I can definitely understand your frustration. I can understand if he doesn’t feel as strongly not wanting her in the actual wedding, but I don’t understand why he can’t at least let her be in some pictures with you guys? To me that sounds like a fair compromise. It’s not like she’d be in every single photo!

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  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    Ugh how cute are all 3 of you! Yes exactly she would only be in a couple of shots. Love how you guys included your dog in the engagement and wedding photos!
  • F
    Dedicated November 2019
    Fia ·
    Maybe approach this as a compromise. Have Angel in some of your engagement photos, but not in the actual wedding. This way you get something you want and vice versa.
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    This seems more than fair to me!
  • Heather
    Devoted October 2019
    Heather ·
    My sister will be having her German Shepherd as her ring bearer. However, she also had to hire someone to take him back to her house after the ceremony, otherwise someone or herself would be stuck looking after him and picking up his poop during the reception. So there’s also that to think of.
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    I can easily have someone take her back home. She never has any accidents and has a very chill temperament

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    I broke up with a guy over not loving my animals as much as I do 😂
    But maybe you could tell him it's important to you to include the animals and you would like it if he thought of a way you both could otherwise you'd like to compromise on the engagement photos. It places the power on him to find something he's comfortable with a compromise if he can't. If he can't think of anything better then he'll just have to deal with it.
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    That’s what I’ve been doing actually! I’m giving him options and if he refuses all of them I said I’m just included her. End of story

  • VIP September 2019
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    This is my 2nd marriage. With my first we didn't have the dogs involved and that was a big regret. I actually left the reception for about a half an hour to visit them. I also ditched my new husband at the bed and breakfast to go home to be with my dogs. He got super drunk and that was only the half of it. Needless to say my two dogs are my everything and will be in the ceremony and there for family pictures then leaving. I bought them bowties. My FH prefers them.to not be there but it is important to me.

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  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
    I would 100% include them (or at least the the one) in a couple of engagement pictures. It's not super uncommon and often done for Christmas cards or photos. It is something that will last a lifetime even beyond the dogs life. The memories will honor both the engagement and the bond as a couple with beloved animal(s).
    A few pictures among many isn't going to hurt. I agree it's probably not best to have them there for the wedding but no reason not to be in wedding related photos.
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    Omg what a little gentleman!! 😍😍
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
    I’ll let you ladies know what we do!
  • Angela
    Expert June 2019
    Angela ·
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    Thanks! Fingers crossed you get it worked out to at least have yours in photos!
  • Taylor
    Dedicated June 2019
    Taylor ·
    Our dog was in our wedding and there were never any questions about it, it was just a must. I made sure my venue was okay with pets before booking. I think if you marry me, you are marring what comes with me too 🤷‍♀️ But my husband and I raised our dog together, so he wanted him to be apart of it as much as I did so I can’t imagine your frustration. Good luck! Everything is about compromise

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  • Samantha
    Super August 2019
    Samantha ·
    We’re having a destination wedding so we can’t bring our cat (plus she’ll be pregnant and can’t travel). So I created “The Ocean” signature cocktail for her and recently did a photo shoot and will be converting a pic into a life size cardboard cutout so she can be our flower girl - my florist is making a flower necklace for free to spruce it up too. And then guests can snap photos with “her” in our photo booth if they want.
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    What a cute idea! I love the cardboard cutout but even my FH would not be open to the idea. I would literally have to do it and he deals with it. It’s probably one of the only things he won’t let me have my way with that ends peacefully 😒
  • Kimberly
    Expert April 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    I can’t with how adorbs your wedding photo came out! He has adapted to everything else that comes with me and the pets; the clothes, sleeping on the bed, kissing them, trying to involve them in all activities...I’m just trying to get him to meet me somewhere with them when it comes to our wedding
  • Mandi
    VIP March 2020
    Mandi ·
    I absolutely would love my dogs to be part of my ceremony. In fact, I have a chihuahua who passed away 2 years ago named Bubbles and I want to get a bubble machine to blow during our ceremony as a symbol of her being there.
    My 2 pups are the best. They go to work every day with me. I logistically can't get them to be there for the wedding. So they wont be. I'm bummed, but at the same time, I need to think about their needs before my own wants. My pups stayed at my parents house because they are super bonded, and the oldest is 10, and I didnt think a move would be good for her. My parents live half an hour ish away, and there's only 2.5 hours in there to flip the venue after the ceremony. So I'd have to hire someone to look after them (I don't let strangers care for my kiddos) or take them to my house. But I dont think taking them to a strange house for several hours is the best choice ever either.
    Just an overview of how I had to deal with them not being a part of the day.
  • Lacy
    Savvy November 2019
    Lacy ·
    Maybe talk to your FH about why he doesn’t want the animals in the wedding/photos and try to hear him out? Perhaps is something sweet about not wanting to share you? Then you can discuss from there your feelings about your fur babies and come up with a compromise
  • Lacy
    Savvy November 2019
    Lacy ·
    Sometimes just listening to that extent lends people to be more willing to compromise.

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