I recently accepted the fact that I am an alcoholic, and now (only 2 weeks) sober, I realized I was going to be putting myself at risk by attending the bride's bachelorette party. I told her I was having alcohol issues, and unfortunately couldn't attend. I am a bridesmaid, so I knew this would deeply disappoint her, but I was still surprised when it took a full day for her to text me back. She was definitely upset, and said she didn't understand where this was coming from, that I didn't have to drink, and asked if this meant I wouldn't be going to her wedding either since there will be alcohol there. I did my best to respond, giving more detail as to just how long and how serious my issue has been. She hasn't responded to that message yet.
Did I lose one of my best friends? Did I do the wrong thing? Should I have lied? Should I have taken the risk of falling off the wagon? Should I let it go and just consider it her goodbye from me? Is she better off without me?
I would love to hear from anyone who can relate.