“I think I’m available”

That is annoying. If you're so inclined send her text Friday saying "hi we need your answer today in order to inform our caterer of our guest count. If I don't hear from you, I'll count you as a no and hope to see you another time." Or whatever lol.

Agree with Steph, you wouldn't want to put her as a no and then she shows up so I would confirm. Did she get a plus one? Maybe she's salty about that or something.

I would tell her that you need to know a yes or no by Friday as it's important to know the head count for a wedding. If not then count her as a no but have a few extra seats?

That's terrible! I would take that as she will come if nothing else comes up...so rude! Hopefully this is the end of the RSVP troubles for you!

What!? People are so weird! Definitely not an answer.

That’s annoying. I would follow up with something like, that’s awesome but I need a definite yes or no answer to provide our venue with accurate numbers for food.

That is terrible. I’d reach out one more time and let her know the importance of receiving a DEFINITE answer.

I literally have no patience for this kind of stuff hahah. Like what in the heck kind of answer is that... I probably would've texted back "So is that yes or no?". People are so bizarre.. Like this isn't just a hang out session. I need to know if I am spending money for you to come or not..

I’m gonna assume that this girl has never planned a wedding before and has no idea how annoying this type of response is lol. You can kindly reply that you need a final answer Friday so you can give your caterer a headcount, and if you don’t hear back you’ll unfortunately have to mark her as a “no”. I get it, work schedules and life can sometimes be difficult to arrange ahead of time, but if it’s a friend or family member that I truly care about and I’ve known about the wedding/event for months I’m going to make it work or at least give them a concrete answer. It’s not gonna be some “wait and see” type of situation.

View Quoted Comment This. Firm yet gracious.

Goodness. I would reach out again on Friday to get a definite yes or no. I think I'm available is not an appropriate answer.

Yea I would reply back with.. good to hear let me know by Friday when u've checked ur schedule & know for sure thank u

I seriously don't understand why people can't seem to commit to anything these days. I would tell her "Sorry I need a definite yes or no. I need to give in my final count and I don't want to be short or pay for people that don't show up"

Yeah I would definitely reach out again and say we need a definitely yes or no by "X" date. It almost seems like in her mind she said yes, but obviously we all know that's definitely not a definitive answer, lol.

I feel your pain!! I just need a simple YES or NO. I don't understand how difficult that is.

I would respond with “okay just let me know for sure by Friday so I can include you in our headcount for [venue/caterer/whatever]” — I feel like calling attention to a specific need for a definitive answer will hopefully help get you one 🤞🤞

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That's almost exactly what I said haha, and then she didn't answer -.- hopefully she'll get back to me by Friday but idk what to do if she doesn't! Part of me just wants to say screw it, I gave her a chance and she isn't coming, but then part of me is like... what if she thinks that saying "I think I'm available" IS as much as a confirmation as she thinks she needs to give...?

"I think.." is not an answer. I'd reach out again since you didn't get a clear answer the first time. People really don't understand how important it is to say yes or no!

I'm beginning to realize that some people don't know proper wedding etiquette. I would respond now with something like, "okay cool. Just let me know for sure by Friday. I totally understand if you can't make it, just need to make sure that the caterer has the right number of people."

That is so annoying!!! My fh cousin keeps flip flopping her answer. So I know how you feel but I have a little more time than you do.. I would reach out to on Friday. And just say " hey, I need a straight answer for dinner"