Gen
Champion June 2019

“I think I’m available”

Gen, on May 14, 2019 at 11:03 AM Posted in Planning 0 24
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Does she think that’s an RSVP? 🙄

That was the text I got back when I asked my friend if she got our invitation and would be attending... I told her we needed her final answer by Friday and she says “I think I’m available.” 😒 Obviously I’m not counting that as a “yes” but if I don’t hear from her by Friday, do I reach out one more time or just mark her as a no??

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Latest activity by Libby, on May 22, 2019 at 4:51 PM
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    That is annoying. If you're so inclined send her text Friday saying "hi we need your answer today in order to inform our caterer of our guest count. If I don't hear from you, I'll count you as a no and hope to see you another time." Or whatever lol.
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  • Rachael
    Dedicated June 2019
    Rachael ·
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    Agree with Steph, you wouldn't want to put her as a no and then she shows up so I would confirm. Did she get a plus one? Maybe she's salty about that or something.

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I would tell her that you need to know a yes or no by Friday as it's important to know the head count for a wedding. If not then count her as a no but have a few extra seats?
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  • Maria
    Super October 2019
    Maria ·
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    That's terrible! I would take that as she will come if nothing else comes up...so rude! Hopefully this is the end of the RSVP troubles for you!

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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    What!? People are so weird! Definitely not an answer.
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    That’s annoying. I would follow up with something like, that’s awesome but I need a definite yes or no answer to provide our venue with accurate numbers for food.
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated August 2020
    Brittany ·
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    That is terrible. I’d reach out one more time and let her know the importance of receiving a DEFINITE answer.
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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    I literally have no patience for this kind of stuff hahah. Like what in the heck kind of answer is that... I probably would've texted back "So is that yes or no?". People are so bizarre.. Like this isn't just a hang out session. I need to know if I am spending money for you to come or not..

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  • S
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    I’m gonna assume that this girl has never planned a wedding before and has no idea how annoying this type of response is lol. You can kindly reply that you need a final answer Friday so you can give your caterer a headcount, and if you don’t hear back you’ll unfortunately have to mark her as a “no”. I get it, work schedules and life can sometimes be difficult to arrange ahead of time, but if it’s a friend or family member that I truly care about and I’ve known about the wedding/event for months I’m going to make it work or at least give them a concrete answer. It’s not gonna be some “wait and see” type of situation.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    This. Firm yet gracious.
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    Goodness. I would reach out again on Friday to get a definite yes or no. I think I'm available is not an appropriate answer.

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  • Jacque
    Dedicated July 2019
    Jacque ·
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    Yea I would reply back with.. good to hear let me know by Friday when u've checked ur schedule & know for sure thank u
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  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·
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    I seriously don't understand why people can't seem to commit to anything these days. I would tell her "Sorry I need a definite yes or no. I need to give in my final count and I don't want to be short or pay for people that don't show up"

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  • Sarah
    Devoted October 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Yeah I would definitely reach out again and say we need a definitely yes or no by "X" date. It almost seems like in her mind she said yes, but obviously we all know that's definitely not a definitive answer, lol.

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  • Stephanie
    Super June 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I feel your pain!! I just need a simple YES or NO. I don't understand how difficult that is.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I would respond with “okay just let me know for sure by Friday so I can include you in our headcount for [venue/caterer/whatever]” — I feel like calling attention to a specific need for a definitive answer will hopefully help get you one 🤞🤞
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    That's almost exactly what I said haha, and then she didn't answer -.- hopefully she'll get back to me by Friday but idk what to do if she doesn't! Part of me just wants to say screw it, I gave her a chance and she isn't coming, but then part of me is like... what if she thinks that saying "I think I'm available" IS as much as a confirmation as she thinks she needs to give...?

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·
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    "I think.." is not an answer. I'd reach out again since you didn't get a clear answer the first time. People really don't understand how important it is to say yes or no!

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  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
    Jordan ·
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    I'm beginning to realize that some people don't know proper wedding etiquette. I would respond now with something like, "okay cool. Just let me know for sure by Friday. I totally understand if you can't make it, just need to make sure that the caterer has the right number of people."

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  • Cynthia
    Expert June 2019
    Cynthia ·
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    That is so annoying!!! My fh cousin keeps flip flopping her answer. So I know how you feel but I have a little more time than you do.. I would reach out to on Friday. And just say " hey, I need a straight answer for dinner"
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