I think 3 years is fine.

It's definitely a while away, but it gives you plenty of time to save money and refine your vision.

Dont start planning too early (now is too early), because your vision will change in the next 3 years for sure.

I have opposite unfortunately. My future MIL wants us to push as far out as possible -.- I don't think shes ready to "loose" her son. My mother on the other hand couldn't understand why we set it for two years out! When it comes down to it it is all about what you are comfortable with. Your family will be happy if you're happy. Plus three years gives you plenty of time to have the day of your dreams.

I'm very impatient so I couldn't wait to get married. We have been together 7 years and it has gone by so fast so I'm sure it will fly by. We got engaged in October on our 7 year anniversary and I set our date the week after for May so we will only be engage 7 months. I happy and comfortable with it though. It would be alot different if I didn't have a huge chunk saved up

My FH and I are having a 2 year engagement... Lots of people have commented that it's too long or too this or too that. As a general rule, I find the less opinions I listen to the better I feel haha! Enjoy those 3 years. You will save sooooo much money!

It all depends how you feel about it. me for example I told my FH to not propose and have me waiting more than 2 years to get married. Cause I didn't want to be engaged for so long. In my opinion if you propose is because you have saved money aheaf of time. Proposing means you will start planning right away. But that is just me.

Waiting to get married isn't always about saving money, I wanted to finish up my degree first (since my financial aid would change after marriage). Also, I'm probably the most stressed out person in the world 99% of the time so having two years to plan works wonderfully for me.

Ultimately you decide how long you want your engagement to be and if you're fine with it then everyone else who cares about you should be too!

FH and I wanted to have a 2 year engagement. We got engaged in the fall of last year (2016), and sooo many people were giving us a hard time for planning for a 2018 wedding!! In my mind, when he proposed it was only X-amount of weeks until 2017, and I didn't like the idea of rushing the planning. As it turns out, the venue that we love is completely booked for 2017 and only had 6 Saturdays available for 2018 already! So planning ahead isn't a bad thing, having money saved up is awesome, and you can get 'dibs' on the important things that you know you will want and won't change your mind about! (Like a venue!)

We got engaged in September 2013 and we're finally getting married this May. We needed to save, but we also had some health issues come up that needed to be dealt with first. Thankfully FH is in remission now so full steam ahead! You need to do what's right for you.

If it's fine with you and your SO, don't let your moms comments get in the way. People's engagement lengths should be of no concern to others; perhaps another way to judge others.

Ours is 2 years. It's just what worked best for us. If 3 years is what you need to have your dream wedding and your not in a rush then do what's best for you two, don't worry about others opinions. You'll soon realize that someone will have an opinion about everything involving your wedding. Congrats on the engagement though!

Your timeline is fine!

We got engaged last February and are getting married this weekend. Surprisingly, a lot of people were asking us why we were waiting so long. My mom even tried to get us to get married last May, telling us to just sit back and let her plan everything. Hell no! LOL just stand firm in your decision and enjoy the time you have to plan.

I think you should take as long as you guys want, it gives you more time to save

Our engagement will be exactly 2.5 years long, so I totally understand. The first year is the hardest because you can't really plan that much.

But there are definitely some benefits to it: you have time to save, you can take your time choosing your venue and vendors and not feel rushed or stressed about finding someone available on your date.

Three years is a looonng time, but if it's right for you then it's right

We didn't have that situation specifically, however, we chose a long engagement so we could have time to save and properly have the wedding we want.

not everyone has the funds to get married right away or the luxury of having someone else foot the bill. I love my fiancée with all my heart and just bc we opted for a long engagement doesn't mean we aren't ready to get married. We have career goals as well and factored this into the equation. We also have kids.

It's your and your SO choice. No one else's. Screw their thoughts.

My fiance are having a two year engagement. We have been together just shy of three years and we had discussed potential future marriage and I was honest that I wanted a "long" engagement. I think most people get married within a year but that felt so rushed. Not in the sense that I didn't want to marry him, but in a financial and planning sense. We wanted to have plenty of time to really discover our vision. We actually picked a venue much sooner than I thought we would as we originally wanted to see a lot of places, but I think it's like the dress, when you know - you just know. From a financial aspect, we have a plan to save a set amount each month to cover the expenses and honestly, our venue is all inclusive (essentially everything can be included aside from the gifts, attire, and honeymoon) for not a ton of money so they book really far in advance. Personally, I feel if you are paying for the wedding, you should get to have EXACTLY what you want, when you want it. If you are fortunate enough to have help from family with the wedding, then you should probably try to accommodate them a bit. I was just the MOH in my best friend's wedding in September (she married my fiance's brother) and she gave me the best advice - you're going to have critics, people are going to have something to say about every decision you make, but it's not their wedding, so do your best to play nice about the small things that don't matter a lot, but ultimately ignore the haters because your day will be perfect for you, not them.

My FH and I will be engaged just under two years when we get married this August. Waiting isn't a bad thing. Planing takes a lot in both time and money, I don't know what your reasoning is for waiting three years before the wedding, but I would just ignore people like her saying that's too far away. It's your wedding you shouldn't have to rush it to please people.

Also, congrats on your Christmas engagement! He popped the question at 12:14 am on Christmas morning. He wanted to do it Christmas Eve but it was a mad dash to get our house in order for family coming over for Christmas. We LOVE Christmas and we're getting married on 12/8/2018 with a Christmas theme. We're always like little kids at Christmas so even thinking about planning our Christmas wedding is so exciting. Since you're having a long engagement, I recommend just basking in the excitement of this new time in your life. You can email vendors to set up appts to see places when it is convenient for you. We initially had many appts set up spread over January and February but the second venue we saw, we knew we had to have it so we booked. I recommend seeing as many places as possible because some places include SO MUCH for the same price some places only include the venue and set up. You have plenty of time to wait it out for the perfect fit, we just happened to get lucky we found it so soon.

I'm sure she is just really excited for you and wants to see you get married sooner just for all the excitement it comes with it! My personal opinion it would drive me crazy that long of an engagement but you do you girl!

By time we get married in about 7.5 months, it will be a 21 month long engagement. It took forever to get here but now I wish I had more time. I say that to say this is one area of wedding where "do you, boo" applies wholeheartedly. Getting married three years out only affects the two of you. Our parents hosted an engagement party which kinda helped in breaking up the wait. But if you're anything like me and don't like stress, a long engagement is the perfect thing for you.

To anyone who says they don't understand long engagements, I always say I don't understand the rush. And considering you not putting in on this (lol) your opinion matters very little.