I regret accepting a bridesmaids invitation.

About the shower question. The bride shouldn't expect for the BM's to chip in for the shower. But it is the norm that the BP collaborates on the shower and that everyone chips in because it is expensive. I have been a BM twice and it is really challenging planning the shower with all the other BMs. There are always some more invested than others. As someone that has taken the lead on organizing the shower on both occasions I was a BM, I can tell you I paid a lot more than $88. Try $300 plus.

Awe I'm so sorry I have been a bridesmaid in two different weddings and haven't had to spend really any cash. The brides did pretty much everything themselves!

Hang in there girl! You're being very sweet and trying your best. Just chalk this is up to "a lesson learned". Hopefully you still enjoy the big day and hopefully she makes it ion to you when your day come around (nice big ole' gift perhaps?)

Coming from a bride's perspective: It really takes a lot of thought when it comes down to choosing a wedding party in my opinion. For me I have a lot of friends and family that I had to figure out who would be in the wedding and who will be a guest. When a person accepts an invitation to a bridal party it's a big thing. My fiancé asked two of my friends' boyfriends to be his groomsmen. He honestly felt a good connection with them and that they would be a good. Think of it that way. Maybe she feels that her time around you has been good.

My mom is actually hosting and covering my bridal shower. My best friend MOH has asked all of the bridesmaids to contribute on the bachelorette party primarily because the festivities involve them enjoying it as well. I don't know the details of it just yet. I asked her to keep it where it would not break anyone's pockets. Their dresses I chose which was about 80 bucks and their shoes I chose for under 30 bucks. I'm covering their jewelry, gifts, and survival kits.

I'm glad you are choosing to continue the process. In the end you are doing this for a moment this woman will remember for a very long time.

Simply say "no thank you". It's nobody's business why you don't want a drink. Maybe you just not feeling it that night to drink. I'm not a hard liquor drinker so I made that clear with my MOH.

@LaToya..Thanks. Just never thought it would become so much and become so expensive.

What you spent is comparably nothing to many weddings I've been in. Don't fret. You're doing the right thing