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Mrs. Jjb
Devoted November 2018

I received a text message B-list wedding invite

Mrs. Jjb, on August 23, 2017 at 4:38 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 39

Verbatim: "If I told you, due to a 75 person limit you were on the B list would you be offended? If "Yes" forget I sent this message. If "No" read on: The asshole family members I invited after a 2 week fight with my mother have declined. I'd like to invite you and [FH]. What do you think? It...

Verbatim:

"If I told you, due to a 75 person limit you were on the B list would you be offended?

If "Yes" forget I sent this message.

If "No" read on:

The asshole family members I invited after a 2 week fight with my mother have declined. I'd like to invite you and [FH]. What do you think? It doesn't mean I do t love you."

It's her 3rd wedding, we don't talk much anymore and if there is a limit to her guest list it's self imposed because I'm familiar with the venue. Her invites are out already.

Can't make this stuff up!

I told her we were busy and I hoped things with her Mom clear up.

39 Comments

  • MoreMoore
    VIP November 2017
    MoreMoore ·
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    I'd go for the food, cake, and alcohol and regift some dumb crap around the house to them. But I'm petty like that.

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  • P
    VIP October 2017
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    Man, you are so much more composed than I would have been. Who on earth thinks thats an appropriate message?

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  • Mrs. Jjb
    Devoted November 2018
    Mrs. Jjb ·
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    I guess she thinks we're close enough to break all etiquette rules... except you're never really that close if you're on the b-list.

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  • Betsy
    Devoted November 2018
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    Lmao ^

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  • Nicole
    Super November 2017
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    Nope!

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  • Mrs. Jjb
    Devoted November 2018
    Mrs. Jjb ·
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    @Kristin - NOT EVEN THE B-LIST! lol

    My MOH/BFF hates her and I'm not fond of her at all. She's an old acquaintance from many years ago, she only started reaching out to me when she heard I got engaged. Guess she thought we had something in common again.

    These type of shenanigans are exactly why she is working on husband #3 and is having a hard time finding guests to be excited for her, including her mother.

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    We were B-listed via voicemail a week before the wedding. We deleted the message and didn't respond.

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  • Sandra
    Devoted September 2017
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    I would have said "Women Bye" I'm busy trying to find something to do.

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  • Cassidy
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    Jesus, people are ignorant. If you do it at least be discreet about it

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  • Brooke
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    Brooke ·
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    Wow.

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  • Megan
    Expert September 2017
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    I might go just to see the show

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  • KourtniJones
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    Beyond tacky of her..

    I think you made the right decision by respectfully declining.

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  • lawn_flamingo
    Devoted September 2017
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    That's shitty.

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  • Sos0033
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    People are so weird. What's even the point of B-listing? Just save the extra money when people decline.

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  • The Band of Burtons
    Devoted December 2018
    The Band of Burtons ·
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    This is so ridiculous!

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  • Jane38
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    Jane38 ·
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    WOW!!! My fmil keeps asking if she can put a few of her co-workers on "the b-list" even though I've told her about 87 times that the b-list does not exist. It's just "the list"!!! Makes my blood boil.

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  • lkg72
    Devoted July 2018
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    I might be more receptive if she said "would you hold it against me?" ala Britney Spears

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  • Ashley
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    Ugh WHY....

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