Hi! I am recently engaged (happily!) and am facing a conundrum. Here's the problem: MY fiance is planning on asking his brother to be his best man and I feel obligated to ask his girlfriend to be a bridesmaid, but we do not get along at all.
The four of us lived together for one year and in that year i discovered that I really do not like my future brother-in-law's girlfriend. She was disrespectful to me throughout that time and we got into several heated discussions about petty things. It was made clear that the hostility I felt toward her was mutual. Normally I wouldn't think twice about not asking her to be a bridesmaid if she wasn't a serious girlfriend. However, she has been dating my future brother-in-law for 5 or 6 years and has known his family just as long, yet there is no sign of a future engagement that neither myself or fiance can see. Idk how my future bro in law/ in laws would take it. What is the right thing to do? Invite her to save the peace, or dont?
