I really dislike my fiance's brother's girlfriend.

I would not ask her. Your bridesmaids should be your closest friends.

You have a long time until you should be asking anyone to be in your BP. They may not even still be together. Relax. Wait until the spring.

I don't see why you would be obligated to ask her simply because she's dating the would-be best man. If your relationship is rocky I doubt she even expects it.

Do NOT give her a place in your wedding party. Your wedding party should be filled with your closest friends/family members. She should not be included in that.

Don’t ask her. You don’t like her and they aren’t even married or engaged.

Do not ask her to be in the wedding party...you really have no reason to

Don't feel obligated at all. Your bridesmaids should be the people closest to you! My H's brother was his best man but I didn't have the brothers girlfriend in my bridal party.

My SIL was in my wedding. She is getting married in 3 weeks and I am not in hers, wereuclose and have known each oufor over 16years! If you don't get along, don't include her as a BM. BM are meant for girls you care for and want to have feel special because they are special to you. Don't do it out of obligation. Do it because you really want them in u rural party. Stand your ground. Especially if the feeling is mutual. Don't feel bad.

Thank you for the unanimous answer! I ran out of room to mention that my fiance refused to give his opinion on the matter because he "doesn't want to be responsible for any positive or negative outcome" but I overanalyzed that comment to mean "you probably should ask to avoid drama". But I'm going to stick to my guns on this one.

Don't ask her to be in the wedding. Honestly if the feeling is mutual she'll probably be relieved not to be asked.

She should definitely be invited to the wedding though.

My brother is in my wedding. His wife is not. I don't like his wife and she has nothing to do with me. When I told her I got engaged she said "I know. I saw." Don't pick her, pick the people important to you.

Um, nope.... you don't have to make her a BM. that honor is reserved for those closest to you

Just because he has his brother in the wedding, does not mean you need to include his girlfriend. There is no rule about having couples in the bridal party...but you definitely have to invite her to the wedding.

You do not have to ask her if you do not want. Only have girls up there that mean something to you.

You for sure are not obligated to ask her. Ask those you're closest to. I can understand siblings and in-laws, but I don't really get it if they're just dating and you're not close with them. I know several people who did ask their siblings girlfriend to include everyone and most of those couples broke up soon after the wedding.

You definitely have no obligation whatsoever to her. If he has an issue with it, then just explain you have people you're close with. You don't really owe an explanation and they shouldn't expect it.

Don't ask someone like that save the headache!!

Don't ask someone that isn't a close friend.

You are in no way obligated to ask her!

If there is mutual dislike, then I'm sure she doesn't really want to be in your wedding either (buying dress, etc.).

I didn't allow anyone to dictate who my BM are, because honestly it's only your choice.

I don't see any reason she needs to be a bridesmaid. In fact I'm kind confused why you think she does even though your Fbil will be a groomsmen. Doesn't mean jack. She should be invited as a guest by name though since she's in a long term relationship with your Fbil.