I promise to never be THIS bride and bridesmaid!!!

I'm having 3 showers one for each side of the family. . My Third shower is at the restaurant wh ere my FH works.. so we are doing all the food ourselves, I was feeling bad about everything but my bridesmaid s are only really doing the third shower. It will be over the top over because we are doing the work ourselves. Im excited to have some input on this shower because I had none on the others. The wedding is huge. So I'm getting to do things for the shower that I can't do for the wedding. So everyone wins! Getting excited!

Marina, it really is unbelievable, Ive so tempted to drop out, but its a week till the shower and two weeks before the wedding.

Happy in Hawaii - I also feel so guilty coz my sisters throwing mine and I know shes spent so much already, even though mine is at our parents place.

JK8115 - Exactly! If they wanted a kardashian style bridal shower, then they should pay for it. Not ask us to pay it in installments!

Im so glad my mother and MIL mind their own business re my bridal shower/friends. I was so shocked that when I saw the message and it said $300 each I was like "wait lemme read that again." And yes can you believe the bride is now not speaking to two of us?! She hasnt responded to any of our messages which were general messages about times etc.

Kaesey - I know right. I mean a photographer?! Why cant we have it at this MIL house then and take iphone pics and have someone bring their camera for example. I shouldve said something to the MIL coz I clearly was too nice!

Lol elfie, people watch too much tv i swear

So true Jessica.

If the bride is not responding to your messages, send her an email or text stating that if you do not know when or where to show up, you will not be able to attend. Also mention that there is no way in hell you are paying $300 because you never agreed to it, and that they still owe you $100 for the lost deposit. Hopefully, she will get the point.

I understand that she is a close friend but you need to stand your ground. I would count the $100 as a lesson learned and step down from the wedding. I understand you are trying to be the bigger person but how long are you going to let this happen?

That's so unbelievably rude, I don't think I'd end up keeping a friendship like that either, entitlement at its best. I didn't even want a shower and demanded that there be none. Would have been real pain in the ass because no one's local. Told them to all save their money and stay the weekend at the resort instead if they could.

Wtf? I can't believe they are acting this way!!!