Amy
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i need other’s opinions. The good, the bad and the ugly!

Amy, on July 27, 2021 at 10:42 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 36
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Here’s the cliff note version of my issue, dilemma(did I spell that right? Lol)


So, one of my friends is getting married Aug 2022. I recently got engaged and was planning a Sept 2022 wedding. She got all butthurt because I was going to book her venue, it’s gorgeous. But, we changed our mind. $4500 for a venue? Anyway, she was still upset because it would take away from her day. Also, I didn’t announce my engagement because I didn’t want to take away from her excitement. Another close friend decided to take it upon herself to tell everyone before I could. Now, I’m no longer in her wedding and we are all fighting. Claiming that I’m full of drama. Is there protocol for telling people? My thoughts are, that it’s my wedding and I can keep it to myself for as long as I want. Btw, my fiancé and I are doing all of the planning ourselves.. what do y’all think?

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Latest activity by Katie, on July 28, 2021 at 9:34 PM
  • Janet
    Devoted October 2018
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    Who is planning it, who got engaged first, doesn’t matter. Your date will not work for everyone, and those who think they are entitled to all the attention because they were engaged first need a reality check. People use the same venues all the time, no wedding will be exactly the same, and people can be happy for more than one person. When and where you decide to get married is between you and your spouse. If she can’t be happy for you, then she is not a friend. You get your day and she gets hers.
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    Thank you! That’s what I thought!! I’m not crazy lol!
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    I agree with this. All of that extra stuff doesn't matter, and the chances of people having a wedding venue that no one has used before is slim to none lol. You both should get to feel special and celebrated, and if she can't put her petty feelings aside and 'share' the excitement, then she must not be a great friend.

    Also just wanted to put in here that $4,500 isn't bad for a venue at all lol!! But I hope you're able to find one that you really love!!

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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    Lol no, she's being ridiculous. Your wedding doesn't take away from hers and vice versa. I completely agree with Janet that if this is something that has made her mad at you then she's not a real friend.

    We're getting married at the same venue as one of my fiancé's coworkers who has become a friend to both of us. When he told her we booked their venue she sent us her list of vendors that she contacted who were close to that venue!

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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    We found a venue for $900 and having professionals come to decorate! Totally stoked!
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    That's awesome!!

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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    Hecks yeah! I think our whole wedding will cost $4500 lol!
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  • Katie
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    Your friend is being a selfish attention seeking bridezilla. Sorry but she is. I'll will say this again you get one day just one day for your wedding. She doesn't get the whole year dedicated to her wedding and she needs a slap of reality. She can't be in the spotlight all the time. And people are allowed to move forward with their lives and shouldn't be made to put their lives on hold because someone is getting married. It's not like you are getting married on the same day heck you didn't even pick the same day. You are allowed to tell people and enjoy your engagement as well as your wedding without having to walk on eggshells because of some princess. Sorry for the rant it just annoys me that there are women out there who think the whole world should stop and everyone should be all about them just because they are getting married. It's toxic behavior. I'd tell her if I was you that she gets one day and how she needs to get her head out of her a$$. This girl needs to be brought down to reality.
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
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    Sorry I meant heck you didn't even pick the same month.
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    I agree 100%! They called me toxic and full of drama! She is a selfish person. I don’t know why I stayed friends with her for so long. #byefelicia
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    Right! We moved it to July because of family, not to rain on her parade.
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
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    Exactly you don't need that kind of toxicity in your life. I'd ditch her as a friend.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Why does any of that even matter though? l don't see how it would take away from her day at all especially because her wedding is before yours it doesn't even make sense lol. Besides someone else has had that venue before her, I personally wouldn't care at all.

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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    We had to move ours to before hers, but it still wouldn’t take away from her day. I don’t get it either!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Yes it still shouldn't matter. I could see if you were doing the same colors, same decorations, etc but you are two different people and I am sure it will be two different weddings. It sounds a bit insecure/immature if you ask me.

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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    Very immature and uncalled for. Trying to tell me when and where I should have my wedding… also telling me that they wouldn’t be happy for me unless I planned it for 2023!
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  • S
    Savvy April 2022
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    I just don't get people like this. I love my venue so much I keep recommending it to my friends lol. A friend even told me they might get married the same month as me and I was just like oh that'd be fun. Maybe I'm just weird idk lol
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    I’d be the same way! We can plan together!
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
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    Wow she just keeps sounding more and more horrible. What a selfish b word. I'd definitely drop her as a friend and I would be heartless about how I did it to. She is very immature and just toxic.
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  • Viviana
    Dedicated October 2022
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    What a deal!!!

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