Belle
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i Lost - Postpone - No Mood

Belle, on June 13, 2020 at 3:15 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 26
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Just got an email from my venue, informing us that Hawaii extended the 14 days quarantine for incoming traveler until the end of July. I get it, it is for everyone’s safety, but I am super upset, heartbroken, angry, stressed, and I feel like I don’t even want to think about a wedding anymore. At least not in these moment. I just feel nauseous and I can’t sleep. I don’t know how you guys feel better after you decide to postpone.


One of bridesmaid arrived yesterday from Miami, and I am supposed to alter her dress tomorrow. My 3rd dress fitting is this week, but I just feel like canceling everything, boxed everything and stuff them in the storage or shed. I dreamt this wedding for more than 2 decades after our elopement, and now I just don’t give a 💩 to my wedding anymore. My chest felt so heavy, and I just feel like crying.

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Latest activity by Belle, on June 18, 2020 at 10:59 PM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm sorry. This is just so frustrating.

    Absolutely, go have a good cry, hang out with your bridesmaid, and just... deal with this later. You are allowed to grieve.

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  • Danielle
    Dedicated June 2020
    Danielle ·
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    How are they enforcing the self quarentine? How would they even know u were having guests from oht of town that haven't already quarentined?
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    Aw Belle, keep your head up! Things will work out!
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
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    I’m so sorry Belle!! My heart breaks for you! I totally know that feeling and understand. This virus is an emotional roller coaster on brides and I too want off the ride!!
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  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
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    I don’t think it matters if you were quarantine before you arrived in Hawaii, you still have to quarantine for another 2weeks when you get there. I have been reading about quarantine area for tourists, in some other places, that they are geo fencing areas for quarantine travellers. I sincerely hope your comment was not implying to go and not quarantine, because “how would they even know.”

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  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
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    Belle, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I know how upsetting this must be. Don’t stop, don’t give up on your wedding.....I hope you find the strength to keep going! 💕💕💕

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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    Allow yourself some time to grieve. And feel all the feelings you have right now. For me I did feel better the week we decided to postpone back in March, but don’t get me wrong, my emotions have been all over the place up and down over the last few months. We have our honeymoon postponed to September, and we were also going to Hawaii. So I am holding my breath if we are going to be able to go. We have a back up plan for somewhere here on the East Coast if we can’t make it. Hugs to you.
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  • Sasha
    Dedicated September 2021
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    So sorry Belle! I felt the same way too when we made the call to postpone our July 3rd wedding back in March. I tried to hold in the tears and they finally came out randomly while driving sometime last week. I literally had to pull over as I couldn’t see. Best thing I can say is LET IT OUT! and it sucks. Especially, the aftermath out of having to reschedule everything and having to cancel your calendar reminders. But it’s part of the process and will ultimately make you stronger. We are all part a class of unique brides who will have stories to tell for years to come. I know you feel bad now, but the joy will return. Do what you need to do to reschedule appropriately, then relax. Good luck!
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I’m sorry to hear Smiley sad I hope everything works out for you
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  • L
    Expert September 2020
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    I completely understand. We postponed and since then its been hard to plan or get excited about it. I dont know if this is an option but I really think what helped me the most after postponing was getting married on our original date. I think I wouldve been so much more upset if I had to wait to get married until the day we postponed to. Also, it takes the pressure off of you to make the new date perfect since its not your actual wedding day
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  • A
    Beginner March 2021
    Amanda ·
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    I would not recommend breaking quarantine. The penalties are high. Over 20 people were arrested for breaking quarantine the other day. The visitors are required to provide lodging information, hotels issue a one time key that only works once and visitors can’t rent a car. I may have to cancel my wedding as well due to quarantine. I will see since many of my guest are not from Hawaii.
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    Beginner November 2021
    Courtney ·
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    They require everyone who comes into the airport disclose their lodging address and they do checks to make sure you stay there. If they catch you, they arrest you.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Thank you. I feel a tad bit better, but still super bummed. It may take time, and may go away once we have plan B.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    They will give us instructions to follow, track up with out phone, come to check without notice. We would never disobey the law, and we will respect the locals. We will do covid test before we depart and make sure we show no symptoms, but still, we might get it on the way there, so the quarantine do make sense. It’s just that Covid stay this long, this upsets me.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Thank you. It’s definitely sucks!
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    I still want the date. It is very special to us. I am waiting to calm myself down to offer my idea to dh to go there 14 days earlier and “throw money out of the window” by renting a house or apartment and stay in room/house, and hoping we are good to go on our date.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Yes, it is a roller coaster emotional ride. However, I dreamt about Hawaiian intimate wedding for more than 2 decades. Changing the destination is a big no for me. I wish I am not picky.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Thank you. I hope the joy comes back soon.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Thank you, Melle.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    We are already married. We eloped 23 years ago. It’s just that I was waiting for eternity for dh to ask me to re-do our wedding because my elopement back the. was kind of traumatic to me. My dh and his family forbid my family to be in our elopement and we didn’t have money for anything back then. I never had the joy or any excitement to plan a wedding. Everything was last minute and donated, and borrowed. I look like a crappy cheap bride, it’s embarrassing to even show or hang the picture in my house. I faked smile, and I was feeling like in an arranged wedding. I had no voice at all. No one ask anything, no one literally complimented me. Not that I was expecting, but I did look very bad and unhappy when I look at the old pictures. No congratulations, no gift, nothing. Just a communion dress with borrowed veil, go to chapel, done, go home, that was literally it. I can’t even show how sad I was back then.
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