"I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry"

I just busted out laughing when I read the title. Let me go check out the blog.

I can't read it is blocked at work. But from the title, it doesn't sound like some thing I would enjoy.

I hate people.

I'm doing my best right now to stop from FREAKING OUT about this.

I hate people!!!

I read this earlier. Every one has a different view of success. Hers is money and career. The love of family is a non issue for her. I am thankful, my definition of success includes love of family. Ivory Towers...

Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.

Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same. It’s hard for me to believe it’s not just verbally placating these people so they don’t get in trouble with the mommy bloggers.

Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And here’s the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?

If women can do anything, why are we still content with applauding them for doing nothing?

I want to have a shower for a woman when she backpacks on her own through Asia, gets a promotion, or lands a dream job not when she stays inside the box and does the house and kids thing which is the path of least resistance. The dominate cultural voice will tell you these are things you can do with a husband and kids, but as I’ve written before, that’s a lie. It’s just not reality.

You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.

I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.”

The author has no prospects of a husband and is probably bitter about it.

She is an idiot. I hate her.

And really pretty shitty of her to go on about how "easy" it is to have kids. Is she really that ignorant?

Wow. Unreal. I'm actually jealous of young mothers/wives. I'm 30 and wish I met FH younger or that he didn't take 6 years to propose! I have accepted the fact that I'll be 31 when I marry and have kids, but still can't help but be jealous of women who were able to accomplish this in their 20's.

I would assume she is just alone and bitter.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion on careers vs. being a stay at home mother. However I can't say I agree with this article. Whether your a doctor or a stay at home mom, both are equally important. Jet put it best, its just about priorities and what your view of success is.

I also think its very mean to say "...it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them."

If I personally was not able to have children, I would see this as the biggest slap in the face.

This is really infuriating!!!! Why should any woman be criticized for what she wants to do with her life?! You don't see stay at home moms telling women who have careers or travel that they're life sucks because they haven't had children!! This makes me feel so sick! Women will be treated equal when they stop acting like catty bitches and treating each other like shit because of another's lifestyle! Do you see men public blogging and crap about stay at home dad's? Saying they're inferior? No. This woman needs to grow up and worry about herself.

This pisses me off! I wish I could be a stay at home mom and not have to work....that would be awesome! That doesnt make me a bad person. I just hate this article so much.

A lot of her statements are ignorant but there were a few times I was nodding my head while I was reading it. Don't hate, yo.

I think it's horribly ignorant. Like you said, everyone has their own priorities. Right now, I would prefer to spend money on a vacation than worry about kids, but in a few years that will change and I won't care about saving money for vacations because our kids will be our priority.

I kind of want to punch her in the face! Everyone's idea of success is different! I have always dreamed of having a good job (which didn't have to be out of this world amazing but good enough to pay my bills) being a mother and a wife. If I could do those 3 things in my life then I consider myself successful and thus far I have accomplished 2 of 3. Now with that being my idea of success, I would NEVER look down upon another person that views having an amazing career and could care less about a family.. That is their choice.. That is the beauty of freedom and equality.. Men can choose what is important to them, so can women!

The writer of this blog sounds ignorant and bitter. She may not agree with the millions of women who have made the choice to get married and have children, but she shouldn't belittle and demean the accomplishments of mothers and wives.

I actually a little bad for the author. What a miserable person...

Just kidding, she's a total bitch.

and bitches love drama. LOL

I get some of the points (mainly about the fact that many people marry and have kids and I agree that it would be awesome to have alternative showers... like... moving out on your own showers...) but I cannot agree with the overall point of the blog. I consider myself a feminist. I believe that you need to choose the life right for you, regardless of gender norms. I would strongly disagree with her blanket assumption that men don't care about the "household". My FH and I agree that if we were ever financially stable enough to live off of one income, he would be the one staying at home. He would enjoy taking care of the house and the kids, whereas I would need to have an outside career.

Also... since when is looking after one's home and taking a lead role in raising children, "stupid"? I'm a teacher and see the result of parents who don't care about their homes or children, everyday. It is one of the most important jobs out there.

Lol! people just have different priorities... I don't think anyone is wrong, but sitting there and saying that by being a stay at home mom or having a family, you are just average or doing "nothing", or what you do isn't difficult, isn't right. I would love to be a stay at home mom one day. You wouldn't hear me saying "women who want a career are stupid and don't understand the value of having a family"