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I hope I was not just a selfish bride...

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*Mrs_D*, on June 11, 2014 at 10:24 AM

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I had a semi bridezilla moment last night... I did not say anything crazy, I just hope the action FH and I took was not too bride/groom-zilla like... A very good friend of FH's (Tim) got married a few weeks ago. He and his wife eloped on a wedding-moon to Bali. They got married on the beach, just...

I had a semi bridezilla moment last night... I did not say anything crazy, I just hope the action FH and I took was not too bride/groom-zilla like...

A very good friend of FH's (Tim) got married a few weeks ago. He and his wife eloped on a wedding-moon to Bali. They got married on the beach, just the two of them, and then planned on having a reception in Minnesota, where a lot of Tim's friends and family still live. The couple now lives in South Carolina, and will be coming up to MN for our wedding in October. Tim is an usher in the wedding.

FH is on the phone last night with Tim, just chatting per usual. Well, Tim brings up him and his wife's reception. He says to FH "hey, I am wondering if you guys would mind if we had our reception the day before or the day after your wedding. Since everyone is going to be in town already for your wedding, we think it would be really convenient." FH told him he needed to talk to me and would call him back, obviously. (cont)

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VIP July 2014
Staci · on June 11, 2014 at 11:43 AM
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You are absolutely not being selfish, it would be hard on both sides to do it the day before or after the wedding. Most of what you are worried about with your wedding could apply to their reception as well. I think you handled it amazingly well. Many other people would have pitched a fit.
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Master July 2014
Soon2beMrsLittle · on June 11, 2014 at 11:49 AM
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I def can see both sides. Tho you handled the situation well I really believe it could have worked out. Like they could do their reception early in the day( the day before your wedding) maybe like 1-5 and you could have done your rehearsal maybe 7-9 or the day after your wedding they could have had a evening reception 4-7 and that still would have allowed you time to visit your guests, pack, go to the reception then go home and get some rest for your HM. the nice part is they considered yall feelings and asked. I can probably imagine how expensive it will be for them to make multiple trips being that they live in SC.
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Dedicated June 2014
Sharon · on June 14, 2014 at 2:43 PM
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You handled it well. I blew a gasket when my future sister in law told me she was getting married the week before me...
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GoneAndMarried · on June 14, 2014 at 3:51 PM
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I think you handled yourself with grace and did the right thing! I'm surprised that they even asked. I would never.
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VIP September 2014
Munkos · on June 14, 2014 at 3:59 PM
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I'm kind of the odd one out too I guess. I wouldn't be okay with the night before (I also think they may have a hard time getting everyone there if there is still lots to do for your wedding) but I think it would be FUN to get another night with all of those close friends and family, and the second time not on your dime. It would be a nice way for you and DH to get to have fun with the guests you maybe didn't get as much time with at your own wedding.

I'd actually probably be pretty excited if we could party all weekend long with those we love!
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Jan87 · on June 14, 2014 at 4:36 PM
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You and your FH were NOT being bride/groomzillas. You were honest and explained why. They understood. That's it. At least they asked. It didn't work out for them. Don't feel bad. Anyone else would have given them the same answer.
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