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“i hope i get an invite”

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Little Star, on April 5, 2018 at 2:24 PM

I’m not sure what category to put this in. So I’m sorry if I picked the wrong one, please feel free to move if necessary.

I’ve just started wedding planning. Almost got the venue nailed down so I made a post on my social media about finding an affordable officiant (I was trying to see if any of my Facebook friends were ordained) and I got several responses that were basically “oh, I hope I get an invite.”

Is it not rude to say that? I’ve been to four weddings total in my life and I never said it implied that. And I’ve also not been invited to weddings and I really didn’t care. I know weddings are expensive and I don’t take that personally! Now I feel like maybe I should not post about the wedding on my social media because I really don’t want to disappoint people. I can’t invite everyone I know, though. I have a small budget and had to cut the guest list. I wish people were more understanding of this. I’m just kinda venting. Has anyone else dealt with this? And how did you handle it?

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Expert April 2019
Little Star · on April 5, 2018 at 5:54 PM
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Hm, I guess you have a point. I really didn’t think of it that way. Honestly I’m a total amateur when it come to party planning. Planning a wedding is overwhelming and I honestly hate all the etiquette stuff. It seems like no matter what I do I’m being rude. But I will definitely keep what you ladies said in mind and not post about it anymore. Thanks for your thoughts!
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Amanda · on April 5, 2018 at 6:39 PM
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I made the mistake of sharing my wedding website on Facebook after it was made and within hours of posting it I had a few people rsvp on the wedding website who I was not even considering inviting! Like you, I learned my lesson about posting too much wedding stuff online the hard way.
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Little Star · on April 5, 2018 at 6:51 PM
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Yep, definitely no more wedding stuff on social media! It’s nice to have some solidarity with the situation, though. I appreciate everyone’s advice. 😊
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Mrs.Henderson2b · on April 5, 2018 at 6:52 PM
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I think it’s very rude too and puts us brides in a awkward position. I got that response many times. I politely said that we both have large families and want to invite those nearest and dearest to us first. If we have space for one more, we’ll be in touch. One was understanding. I ended up sending her one. She then tried to add a plus one.. 😐 I had to shut that down too. I’ve since logged out of social sites altogether. I’ve 72 days left and trying to get focused. Social media can be a distraction.
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Dedicated April 2019
Futuremrsgrill · on April 5, 2018 at 9:42 PM
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We had this problem just from switching our relationship status on Facebook to engaged. So many comments from people saying they can’t wait to come, then the texts started with people saying they better be invited from former coworkers to my FH ex girlfriend lol. We just haven’t responded to those since we don’t talk to those people anyway. One coworker who I am not at all close with keeps asking if she is invited and saying she would love to come cause she has nothing else to do and doesn’t have a lot of friends. Whenever she brings it up I just tell her we are keeping our wedding small with only our family and closest friends. Our venue only allows us to have up to 36 guests and we only want to have about 25 so that makes telling people no a lot easier.
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Jennifer · on April 5, 2018 at 9:47 PM
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Invite who you want. Don't invite people just because you don't want to disappoint them. This is YOUR day.
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