I asked a long distance girlfriend of mine to be a bridesmaid. She has been married before and was dating/living with someone with 2 kids at the time I asked her. She told me they had a quick backyard weekend wedding and now they are married. The thing is we are having a "kid-free" wedding, but now that she is married and the kid's mother is considered "unfit" I feel awkward in telling her that kids cannot come.
If we let everyone we are inviting bring their kids we would end up with over 30 kids (too much $$ and chaos). Another bridesmaid coming from San Fran to Maine completely understands and is arranging childcare for her son. Can someone ease my concerns that she will understand? On the other hand I totally understand her backing out of being in my wedding could be a consequence.
