I hate the dress my bridesmaids picked!

If they haven't purchased the dress then let them know you want something else. Good luck trying to get them to go back to a store to pick a new one

If it's from David's Bridal, I think I know exactly the dress they picked. It actually might look really nice at the beach since the mesh bottom will pick up the breeze! The lace isn't necessarily fancy.

I'm not sure I'd ask them to change unless you really, really hate it and they haven't ordered. They followed your guidelines, and it is a pretty dress!

I don't think lace is very formal, especially with a short dress. With more beachy hair/makeup/shoes I think it would look great. Unless you really truly hate it I would say let it go. It's pretty uncommon for bridesmaids to agree on a dress so easily and I don't think you will get as lucky the second time around.

Since they haven't actually ordered the dress, just let them know you're really not a fan and voice your opinion more when they pick out dresses again. It's your wedding and you should be happy with their picks.

I honestly would let it go.

We had two women in our wedding party. One of them never communicated or responded to me about the dress, and just showed up on the wedding day wearing whatever she wanted. It was a completely different fabric than what the other woman was wearing - and in my opinion, an unattractive dress.

I thought it looked funny for a minute, and then I realized I didn't really care. You will have so many other decisions to make. If they're happy, let it be.

Some of my girls have picked the same dress but I'm petal. I love it.

I think the dress sounds like it will work just right for the beach theme. Perhaps hair and makeup and even like a flower in their hair would help it put the whole picture together? I think you should let the choice go. I think trying to approach them to pick another could potentially give them a sour taste in their mouth.

I feel like if you only gave them a couple of requirements for it, then said "have at it!" you can't really be too upset here. You gave them the choice to find their own dresses and they did. Now you're going to take it away from them because it's not what you wanted/liked? Maybe you should have considered that possibility before giving them that amount of freedom on it.

In this case, because of what you told them regarding their choices in dress, I would say leave it alone. They're happy, they like it, and you won't be looking at photos of your bridal party very much over the years- you'll be displaying and looking at the ones of you and FS, believe me.

It's just a dress. It's just a color. Let it go, Elsa.

Show a picture and pick their dress

It's your day, your say!

This is why I went with them to dry on dresses and approved the dresses they picked. My color was navy blue so it mattered that they all came from the same company and got ordered at the same time. I looked at 4 very different shades of navy with different dress makers and it looked like shit in my opinion when they were mixed. I took pics because I am scrapbooker, and when I printed it out for scrapbook it looked even worse. Ask the girls out to lunch and an afternoon to go back to dress shop if your not happy. If you hate the dress you will stare at it in pictures for years.

I have all of my girls in dresses from the same line (assuming it's from David's) I told them they could pick whatever they wanted but I thought it would be cool if they all got dresses from that line..(since they're all different but tie together with the lace!)

If you told them they could pick and approved the dress I'd just stick with it...Personally I'd rather be slightly unhappy with their dress choice than have them be pissed because I made them change it..

I think I know th dress you are referring to & agree with pp that it would look good for a beach wedding. I also think that if you gave them the requirements & then let them choose, you have to let them choose.

I HATED one of the dresses one of my bm chose but it fit within the requirements I set so I let it go. Pick your battles.

I'm confused I thought you let them pick so they would like the dress that they wear. You have to decide which is more important what they want or what you want.

Your day, your say?

No. It's "you pay, you say."

Anyways, @OP, I agree with Sass. You told them to find their own dress that fit your requirements and they did just that. I think it's odd to let them pick what they like with simple requirement, and then be upset that it wasn't something you liked.

Honestly, I've seen a lot of lace wedding dresses at beach locales; lace is a pretty popular bridal trend at the moment, in addition to tulle. It's all about that bohemian feel a lot of people want for their wedding, especially if they're looking for something more casual/simple and romantic.

Personally, I'd wait and see how the dresses come together for the wedding. What you're envisioning about these dresses in your head could be vastly different come the wedding.

And as @MzRosaLu said, at the end of the (wedding) day, you probably won't be too concerned about the dresses at all.

I have seen and tried on the dress in question from DB and I really liked it. I think it would look great for a beach wedding. There are also one shoulder dresses without the lace just all mesh or chiffon. You could see if they are willing to get those instead. I think if you felt strongly against a certain style it was a mistake to let them pick.

I'm in agreement with the ppl who have said to let it go. You told them they could choose, if it's within the parameters you set then you don't really have a right to be upset about it. If you were going to be picky about it, you should have chosen the dress yourself, or given more guidelines.

Thanks for all your input. I'm probably just over thinking the situation and I do have bigger things to focus on. The dress is pretty and they like it. I had an all over mesh look in mind, but it was ultimately my decision to let them try the lace dresses. If I wanted them to try more dresses, I should have said something then. I have a bad habit of not speaking my mind anyway. Just tell me to stop trying to fix what's not broken.

Honestly, if they're happy in and feel pretty in them, and it's a pretty dress and pretty color, the photos will be gorgeous and your bridesmaids will be happy. That's what counts, right?

I would not get hung up on "theme."

Let it go. Lace is not always formal. If they like it and are paying then let them wear what they like.

I personally do not think its too bridezillaish if you to ask them to reconsider another dress, only because no one has purchased it yet. Though, I do think that is exactly why you should of went with them, picked a dress out yourself, gave them more guidelines, etc. This is your day and if you hate the dress, don't have them in it. You have to remember these dresses they choose, will be in all of your wedding pictures and you'll see them on a daily basis whenever you get your pictures back!