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Expert May 2017

I feel like my wedding is going to be a disaster

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Ashley, on May 4, 2017 at 5:19 PM

I followed the majority of y'all advice on here, about how to address wedding invites. Example Mrs. And Mr. , or Mrs plus guest. Etc. Anyways, people feel like that doesn't matter. Mostly my FH side. I just text my FH aunt, and asked for if she was going to make it , and she replied, yes put me down for 7! My FH mom is bringing a couple, oh and I heard that a friend I have is bringing her baby. If i could do it over again, I would CLEARLY write on the invitation , "This invite is only for the people listed on the invite" rant over.

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Leslie · on May 4, 2017 at 8:33 PM
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I feel like this is a job for FH. Explain you are stressed and ask him if he can go through the guests and make the calls with you. Sit down together and explain to your family member's your expectations of attendance and that it is so so so unfortunate you just could not include everyone but the venue and the budget was set and you so so so appreciate their understanding and support. Have each other's backs and don't let either family think either of you are the bad guy in this.
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Super September 2017
Ashley · on May 4, 2017 at 8:57 PM
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Just say no
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KendraC · on May 4, 2017 at 9:16 PM
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Good lord, this is something to think about! I am nowhere near RSVPs but I can definately see my FMIL doing something like this!!!!
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DandJ · on May 4, 2017 at 9:26 PM
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I would say that extra couple can drive down with the parents and then go have a nice dinner or do a sight-seeing or something. It doesn't give them an automatic invitation to your wedding. I said the exact same thing when a couple we invited asked to bring their adult daughter. Since it's FH's side and he knows them and our wedding is kind of small and informal I didn't make a big deal but like others have said...the guests are going to think they can do what they want. If you truly don't have room or just don't want them there, you should discuss with your FH, make a joint decision and stick to it. I hope it goes well; best wishes!
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