I feel like my wedding is going to be a disaster

I am with you on this one! I just addressed invites to adults and got an RSVP for a toddler. Etiquette be damned on this one because there are some people that just don't get it and then you run the risk of pissing people off because they found out no kids at late notice or even worse you risk having someone bring along their kid.

Lol ok then that's BS....she's not having to drive alone.

Is she definitely planning on bringing them to the wedding, or are they just coming down for the weekend and doing their own thing during the wedding?

OMG. That's crazy!

@ Taylor when I explained to her the I can only seat 48, and everyone RSVP that were coming, she said "I can't come unless they come , because I riding with them. " Yes, she has a car, and so does her husband. I really don't want to start drama in the family. I kind of know why she did this though. She was mad , because FH and I didnt buy a plane ticket, or pay for her hotel stay. She feels like we should do this , because she's from out of town.

Oh no, i would freak out. Breath and take a step back. Then calmly explain that the invitation was only for the adressee, or the addressee plus one guest, and due to the intimate nature of your venue you do not have the ability to extend invitations to more people no matter how badly you may want to?

Lol @ put us down for 7

Sure! For 1970s prices I will!

I'd be honest with them & say no. I know my wedding isn't until early next year, so I sent a FB message to my close family (those I'm inviting) asking for names, phone numbers, addresses. I also added to please not add anyone that wasn't part of their household (our family) to their count. I got into a disagreement with my FMIL after she tried to add 15 of her closest friends to my list, knowing we only want a max of 100. With my family alone, we've got 76. I put my foot down & told her family only.

Like I said, you shouldn't even have to have that conversation with your FMIL. That job goes to your FH. It's a lot easier to reason with your own mother than it is your fiancé's mother. That way you stay neutral. This close to the wedding, if it were me I might just let it go; but if y'all truly can't accommodate the two extra guests, now's the time to put your foot down.

You don't worry about sounding like a bitch; keep in mind THEY are the rude ones, not you.

"I'm sorry, we cannot accommodate guests that were not specifically invited. We have very limited space and had to curate our list carefully."

The people driving down? They can find something else to do.

And honestly, if his freaking aunt missed the RSVP date and you had to call her? She has balls of brass to tell you to "put her down for seven". I'd personally be telling her, "Gee, I'm so sorry, our count had to be in by the FE$W$#^WQ$##cking RSVP date. We'll miss you."

What @Mrs. C said! Your FH needs to talk to his mother and tell her no and end of subject. Call her bluff that she "can't come without these people!"

Or what @Celia said, they can drive down with this couple but the couple will have to find something else to do while you all are at the wedding.

Definitely say no!! We put "_ seats have been reserved in your honor" on the RSVP but I am sure someone will cross out that number and add in their own. I fully plan on calling people out and saying no. You don't have to be the one to actually say no. Make your FH do it. It's his family and he should be taking some of the stress of you. It's his wedding too.

Thanks Everyone!! I will talk to my FH tonight, whwn he gets off work.

I'm so paranoid this is going to happen to me. There were some people I did not add "and family" to and my gut just tells me they're going to rsvp as such anyway.

You need to tell them straight out like NO!

"I'm sorry. There must have been a misunderstanding. We are not able to accommodate extra guests. If that means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

Your FI's aunt is likely old enough to know that what she has done is very rude. She is just hoping you will be intimidated enough not to confront her.

Sorry you're having to deal with this stress. Make your FH get his family in line. I pray the uninvited guests still don't show up. You might need to tell your future aunt and MIL to tell the extras to bring a sandwich and a chair.

Just say no. What's so hard about that. If this happen to me I will have no problem in confirming only 2 ppl were invited. If I only extended 2 invites and received a response of 7 I would loose it and may deny all of them.

So sorry. We've designated my mom to do the RSVP follow ups. She will say no and in messages say and if we don't hear from you we're assuming you aren't coming and won't have a seat or meal for you (she did say just that for my brothers wedding) why are people so rude? Have they never had a party with a guest count????

I share in your panic! I've already had a few respond with more people than I included on the invite. And so far, no one has declined... I'm waiting it out a bit (I have time), to see if we will be over our limit. If so, I'm dreading the phone calls to the ones with extra guests. Good luck to you! You aren't alone on this!

I think I'm going to have this same problem. We have a guest list of about 150. All my family knows what the RSVP card means and what needs to be written on it. My husbands family and friends are so confused with the whole thing. Some of my MIL guests think they can invite their comadres 3rd cousins best friend! (Being sarcastic) but I fear I will not know a lot of people at our wedding!

I also wrote on Imvitation and info card NO KIDS! Lol