i feel awkward

You will need to call, text, email, FB message etc everyone and ask for their address. And you tell them it is for wedding invitations.

I don't think the facebook event or e-vites is tacky. Brides and Grooms have to do whats according to their budget. I can easily afford to get invitations printed, but I am choosing to only do that for my older and more traditional guests. Everyone younger and tech savvy will receive an e-vite. If they have a problem with that, they can not come at all. The last thing we as Brides want is Negativity. Do what works for you my dear.

I got BUTCHERED on a forum here for bringing up facebook. Most of the people on my facebook are my friends and family and i was completely criticized for saying i was going to turn to facebook. One of the comments was "Are you inviting everyone from your facebook to your wedding? If not then it would be inappropriate to post details of my wedding on facebook."

REALLY?! I say use whatever avenue you need to. Its YOUR wedding..And no one knows your financial issues or troubles. If people are too snooty and stuck up to agree with what you're doing, they don't have to say a word to you about it! I remember a time when artificial flowers were tacky and doing your own centerpieces were considered extremely cheap. Now look what people do. Good luck

That person was correct, and that comment is not in any way 'butchering' you. Their advice was in accordance with proper etiquette. It's considered rude to advertise your wedding anywhere where only some of the people are invited, for obvious reasons. Do you go to work and start talking about your awesome upcoming birthday party with two people, only one of whom is invited? It's the same thing, etiquette-wise. Private events on Facebook where only the invitees can see the information are one thing, but general announcements on Facebook are inappropriate.

You bet your ass I do! I tell talk to my office partner about EVERYTHING! Its not the 1950's. I dont care if someone is offended. Buy a helmet. We are adults. Participation trophies don't exist for adults

I totally understand. People automatically assume that since we don't have the ability to spend $20,000 on a wedding, that it is going to be low-class, or trashy.

As far as invites go, I plan to send a message (via facebook or text) and just say "Hey, we are getting ready to address our wedding invitations and want to make sure you get yours! Can you please send me your address?"

I'm 25 and I have all our friends addresses and phone numbers, so I don't think that's really true. We sent out graduation party invites & Christmas cards. We had to ask for some, but we just reached out and asked and it wasn't awkward. A Facebook event is a lot more casual but if your guests all have Facebooks & you want a casual wedding, I think that's fine.

I wanted to share a system for anyone with a great number of guests addresses that need to be tracked down.

Since my fiance has a ton of local family I put together a guest address google form where responses are linked to an excel document. All you do is put the form link in an email and send it to the guests. This link has a great tutorial!

https://www.elisaannecalligraphy.com/blog/how-to-collect-guest-addresses-for-a-wedding

I texted, FB messaged, and even snap chatted people for their addresses lol. Everyone just willingly gave their address. People typically expect it's for some type of invitation especially after you have announced your engagement. Good luck!

I don't think Facebook is tacky. You cannot make everyone happy. Handwriting invitations actually gives it that personal touch! I like it! I just Facebook stalked most for their addresses or asked my parents. Collecting addresses is a lengthy process but it can be done!

I don't think it tacky. While we have a designer doing our invites, Im going to hand letter the addresses. I send a ton of snail mail year round anyways (and I am a millennial) so my people expect hand made/hand written things by me. Plus as far as the FB event no one has to find the random pieces of paper or text. They can just go on to FB to find the information. Easy and convenient.

My mom got me my family members addresses. most i already had but it was a good and helpful gesture from her. I don't think theres anything wrong with you reaching out on social media asking for their address. Just tell them you are doing invitations for the wedding and you'd love to send them one. i'm they'll give you the address no problem

and honestly do what works best for you. who cares what people think!

I just texted friends to say:

"Hey, I'm working on gathering addresses for when we send out our save the dates. Can you send me yours when you get a chance."

Like PP, I asked my dad for family and family friend addresses.

Handwritten invites are sweet and will show your guests/invitees how personal this event is!

But as far as addressing, enlist in the help of family and friends - my husband and I had each of our parents share addresses they already had, or reach out to members of their respective extended family to fill in the gaps. If you have friends who have recently gotten married, pick their brains for any addresses of mutual friends. Otherwise, definitely reach out through call/text/facebook for an address in a personal message - they'll be excited and likely connect the dots that a wedding invite is coming their way!

Definitely feel free to reach out! If they're special enough to invite them then ask for the address. I recently had a friend reach out and I felt touched she took time to invite me and give me a personal call to verify the address and have a quick talk. Sometimes the little personal things mean the most

I personally did a digital Save the Date over FB and asked for addresses at the same time. 2 birds, one stone and for the most part, I got back congrats! Here's the address: (insert address here). It made the whole process pretty painless. Note that i did this in messenger and the save the date was me saying: "Hey save the date 2/22/2020 for my (if they know my FH, i included him also) wedding! whats you're address for the invitation?"

I've never thought it odd to be asked for my mailing address from an engaged friend or family member. I believe most assume it's for a Save the Date or Invitation and happily provide it and look forward to receiving something exciting in the mail! Don't worry too much about what people think. Remember, the people you're involving in your day are friends and loved ones who are excited to be there - not people who are reluctant to give out their mailing address to you nor care about facebook event invites vs mailed wedding invitations. Just do what makes you the least stressed and the most happy.

If I had zero way to contact someone outside of social media, I'd be hard pressed to consider them close enough friends to put on my wedding guest list.

It's common that most people don't have one another's physical addresses these days. The only time I've ever gotten a "What's your address?" text is when I've been invited to a celebration and am being sent a formal invitation to either a wedding, reception, or baby shower. It's really not that weird.

We reached out to the majority of our guests via text for their mailing addresses, although we got some family members addresses via our parents and connected with others in person or via email or social media for friends living overseas.

I did invitations and Save the Dates... I had to reach out to people via FB Messenger, text, etc. to get their address. It's no different than people sending Christmas cards.

Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that...It's a time to celebrate, not a time to judge people for doing things a "non-traditional" way. I hate that. You guys are doing what works for you so other people should keep their opinions to themselves. If you don't feel like spending $200+ on wedding stationary...no need to feel obligated to do so!! Anyway, for addresses, I just asked out of the blue lol. Everyone I'm close with knows I'm engaged anyway, so they probably just assumed I was asking for invitation reasons.