i feel awkward

We got family addresses from our parents and texted people to ask for their address. And I don’t think a Facebook event is tacky, I just don’t have a Facebook so for me that wouldn’t work but you know your guests best.

I don’t really understand the point of the beginning of this post. I’ve never seen people call a Facebook invite tacky on here- is it casual? Sure, but if that’s what you’re going for go for it. I also don’t think you can compare calling a thing (invites) tacky with calling a person high maintenance.


That being said, everyone we were inviting knew we were engaged so when we asked for addresses for those we didn’t have (I’m a millennial but have most of my friends/families addresses for Christmas cards), most just gave them to us. If someone had asked why I would have just been honest.

I just texted my friends to ask for their addresses. You could also facebook message people. People know we are engaged so I'm sure they assumed why. If you are hiding your wedding, you could always say it's just for a holiday card.

If you do a facebook event, then you won't need addresses

If they ask why then tell them it’s so you can send them an invitation to your wedding...I texted many many people for their addresses and no one asked why.

Sometimes you have to do what works for you. There's nothing wrong with handwriting your invites.
As to how to get addresses, we got most from our family and the rest I messaged and said "Hey we're putting together our guest list for the wedding can I get your address?"

I'm sorry you feel this way, Jessica

I think it's totally fine to text and ask for addresses. I got the majority of my guest addresses from our church directory, but I did have to reach out and text for an address. People will be glad to give you their addresses so you can send them invites!

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I'm happy that you understand and don't judge and think I'm tacky. I have 40 people and they know me pretty well and know me and my man are pretty laid back!

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We are casual people. We have 40 people coming give or take. I'm not sure if I understand the last sentence of first paragraph. But anyway, speaking of Christmas, I could say, I'm sending out Christmas and New Years Cards and that's why and it will be a surprise! I mean, most of them know already...at least I think? Not sure.

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Yep, just cut and dry lol

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That seems to be the way to do it. I'm just thinking time management wise. Like wouldn't it make sense to call a friend and say guess what we're getting married or something like that. But, with holidays, I have some cards here anyway.

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Thank you for support. It's the world we live in. It's just different when like our parents got married. And with Christmas and New Year, it will be super awesome

I've never seen someone on here call Facebook invites tacky, just casual. If that's your event and it works for you, awesome


Saying women who want a more formal event just girls who watched too many Disney movies is not nice though. I would never judge anyones budget; high or low. And I would never belittle someone for what the vision of their wedding is.

Fellow frugal bride! I designed a save the dates on the computer and sent them via text message and FB messaged people. Older guests I sent cards but saved tons doing so. Kudos to you for hand-writing them! My penmanship is horrible so I wouldn't dare. As other PPs said, I texted, FB message and asked my mom and MIL to call to get addresses. That's how I was able to collect addresses to save for now and for thank you cards later.

I think if you're try to save some money the postage for sending and returning the invites may add up. You can do a digital invite from Etsy or somewhere for about $10 and text it out. I used paperless post and only ordered a few paper invites for our older guests

We just texted people asking for their address or got them from family. I’m pretty sure I said in my message “hey can I have you address for wedding related mail” and they were more than happy to send it over. There’s no problem inviting people using handwritten invites, einvites, Facebook or whatever. If you think it’s a good way to reach your guests then go for it. I don’t think it’s fair to say that brides that decide on more traditional or formal invitations are “girls that watched to many Disney movies”. Everyone and every wedding is different visions don’t need to be teased

My fiance and I texted people we didn't have their address and told them that we are going to get married and we would love for them to celebrate with us, and that we need their address to send the invitations.

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This was a very positive message! Thank you! It was tiring to hand write. I did 13 haha. But It will be more like in the 20's because many of them have families.

Congratulations on your engagement! There is nothing wrong with using facebook to get addresses for your wedding. It is actually very convenient. If your guests have an issue and don't want to provide it, than you will save money on you wedding by not inviting them ( no shade intended).

The way I went about it was I just texted everyone and said "hey, what's your address? I'm sending out wedding invitations." Most, if not all, people should be happy to give it to you. I see no reason why anyone wouldn't. To make it easier, I made the RSVP through calling/texting my FH and I. I figured a lot of people invited wont know how to use a wedding website and some people won't want to send it by mail, so calling/texting seemed like the easiest option for everyone. I included my number and FH number in the details card sent with the invitation (instead of an RSVP card) I was worried about it being awkward but I figured that his family would probably call him or his parents using his # and my family would just call me. Also, as for invitations, I actually went on a website and downloaded a free invitation package (you could also buy them on etsy for like $10) and printed the invitations out at work with some nice card stock from Michaels. Saved me SO much on wedding invitations and there are TONS of pretty downloadable wedding invitation sets online. If you don't have access to a printer, staples does them pretty cheap.

I don't know anybody's addresses lol. I'm probably going to use a facebook group as a kind of save the date, and ask people for their addresses when it's time to send the invites. People can call me tacky, I don't care lol. I don't like most of the family I have to invite anyway xD