i don't want to invite my father or aunts/uncle on his side..am i wrong?

I think the only thing I have to say that is different from everyone else is...
Do you want to build a relationship in the future, or are you content with the one you have? Because if you want more, or think you may, you won’t want to regret not inviting your father later. You can’t take it back. It’s not about him holding a grudge, but if there’s any chance YOU may be disappointed with yourself later you should invite him.

I call my father my sperm donor because that’s all he was good for. There’s no way I would ever want him in my life so there was not one thought about inviting him. I found out last month he died in June and nobody told me because they didn’t think I’d care. All I felt was relief.

FH has a friend whose daughter got married this past weekend. He has had a strained relationship with his daughter and he was invited to the wedding but not involved and not even seated with ANY type of family-like at the leftover table. He was hurt because he thought they were at a better place. FH told him to go anyway, because if he didn’t and their relationship died he could at least know he made the effort. She ended up asking him at the last minute to escort a flower girl. Not his daughter, but he felt included finally.

So do whatever YOU feel and don’t let anyone else sway you. Don’t let anyone take up space in your head!

I made A LOT of my family mad by not inviting family members... but I made my choices for a reason and their anger doesnt invalidate that. You just have to if the anger you'll face is worth why you think not having them there is important. 🍀

I'm not close at all to my step moms family and I'm not inviting them. I invited her parents only and that's it. I don't care about their feelings. They never cared about mine so 🤷‍♀️ you're not entitled to invite them family or not

These people are relatives who are acquaintances and penpals. None of the warmth of people you are friendly neighbors with, even, or friendly coworkers. You would never think to invite coworkers or neighbors you never socialize with, never invite to your home or co to theirs more than a couple times in a year ( if that) and only see rarely . Why invite family you are barely acquainted with? When I receive a wedding invitation from some one of the very few relatives I have no relationship with except meeting every few years at someone's cookout or other party, or whom I have seen so seldom I could walk by them on the street, I feel like I only get it in the hopes I will send a gift. They would be horrified if 9 of us showed up and it cost them $1200 , even though they sent invites to my parents and all grown kids . But sure, they would love gifts. Or maybe each of us will put $50 with rest of family, sent a $450 gift with our RSVP saying we regret we can not attend. In other words, when I get invitations from folks I never visit, I am not flattered. We both know we are strangers, and I jump to the conclusion they are being greedy. The invitation only means something, and is worth doing , when it is sent with a genuine letter that you follow up on in real life. If you wish you saw them much more, and tell them that with this marriage you have been thinking of them and other family, and have decided you want to see them regularly in the future and develop real friendships with them, then it is worth sending an invitation, with a nice " let's start seeing each other more" letter inside. But if you do not want to start something new, don't bother inviting them, and don't worry about it for a minute. Maybe you really do feel like this about your father, but it doesn't sound like it to me. . . . People invest so much feeling of "I should do this" in weddings. But if you feel obligated, skip inviting them to the wedding, but have a cookout, family reunion party, or other thing for this side of the family, in your first year of marriage. When you can sit and talk and share stories and pictures. But at your wedding? NO.