i don’t like my wedding venue

Do you have photos of the venue?

If it's not what you were looking for, are you OK with/able to lose out on the deposit and book somewhere else? If not, maybe visit the venue in person? You might change your mind once you see it again. Also, look up photos of weddings that were held at that location in the past! It may give you some ideas of what you can do with decorations and such to make it into a space that you do like. If it's forecasted to rain that day, you could always rent tents to keep everyone dry. Otherwise, are you able to use the space for just the ceremony (since you said you liked the ceremony location), and hold the reception elsewhere?

I think the best thing you can do at this point is take a few days to just calm down and relax so that you can make a rational decision. Wedding planningg can be very stressful. Add in a short time frame and a pandemic, and that stress can go through the roof. Once you are in a calm, rational headspace, you need to think about what it is you really want. Is it important for you to have your dream wedding at your dream location? Will you regret it five years from now if you do not have that wedding? If so, you may need to push your wedding date out at least a year, and forfeit the deposit you placed on the undesirable venue. But, forfeiting some money and having to wait patiently another year is better than forever regretting your wedding day.
On the flip side... how important is it for you to get married this summer? If you are not negotiable on the date, then you will either need to look for another location available on that day, or try to make the best of the venue you already have booked. Just take decision-making one step at a time. As long as you follow your gut and do what’s most important to you, it will all work out!

Nope you're not wrong. Is this the barn??

I mean you clearly sound like you don’t like any aspect about it any longer. What is your deposit too large to back out on?? If your heart is truly sit on a different place or setting and the deposit isnt a lot then I would say screw the deposit and do what makes you truly happy. Find your dream venue.
With all the restrictions that have been forced upon weddings, I personally think it’s really important that you at least enjoy the way the place looks.… Do you think maybe it’s just nerves and anxiety?? Or do you simply just not like the place any longer?

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Definitely some anxiety. People (like my mother) were bringing up what if it rains and stuff and my mom was stressing about it too. Ugh it’s just a nightmare trying to do anything for a wedding right now.

View Quoted Comment Yes. So you agree then right ? Lol

View Quoted Comment Also if was a big deposit kind of but they hadn’t cashed the check yet. Just don’t know if they would let me back out yet. And if I do then what now? Lol

View Quoted Comment I tried looking at other weddings in photos that took place there and it just didn’t help me much. It’s missing the elegant touch I would prefer, that I could have gotten at the courthouse, which was so beautiful. I am having to decide if I just want to forfeit the money and postpone at the old courthouse and caswell pines. I feel like it would be hard to have the ceremony there if it rains. The reception would be a little easier there because it’s covered but the ceremony would get us all soaked. And even if it doesn’t rain I just can’t decide if I’m okay with it honestly.

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View Quoted Comment Omg Bride!!! ♥️ This place looks so romantic and secluded! They have those sheltered areas as well just in case it rains unless those are reserved for something else… But I think even if it rained it would still look super romantic! But honestly that’s just my opinion. If I went to a wedding there as long as it’s decorated right It seems like it’s going to be one of the most romantic weddings ever! My suggestion would be heavy emphasis on floral and candles if you’re into that. Even twinkle lights or draping! Wow! To me the place has unlimited potential! It’s also very open so your guests will be less worried about covid. You’ve totally sold me on this place with those photos LOL because I do see this place is bursting with potential, but as I’ve said before this is just my personal opinion you have to do what’s in your heart

View Quoted Comment Well they actually did have some lighting around the outer porch already up, inside on the beams, and under the shelters and things. It’s good to hear positives about it. I’ve just been hearing too much negative what if’s and things. It’s been a whirlwind trying to find a backup plan from the courthouse and even my mom is currently losing it. We both thought this was a decent place it’s just not what we originally were going for and we worries about rain. But year there are shelters that would help. I think I’m just suffering from a lot of stress.

View Quoted Comment I know… It’s so hard right now to be a bride. I mean if you think about it there has never been another time in the history of the world not even through war where weddings have either stopped completely or have had all of these restrictions. Have you tried to use Pinterest or Instagram too? I also think it might help if you talk to a decor company or a really good florist. These are the people that make places come to life! If you ever need to talk about this more or want to bounce ideas feel free to DM me too. I know how much this sucks right now so anyway I can be supportive feel free to always reach out

View Quoted Comment It's not something I would pick for a venue. Just draw up a pros and cons list for it before making a decision to cancel and go a different route.

View Quoted Comment While I don't particularly like barn weddings, I think you could make it look beautiful. What I'm struggling to understand is that if you didn't want a wedding why you picked a barn venue.

View Quoted Comment Because I can’t find anywhere else that can guarantee I can have up to 100 guests in June! And the venue I originally wanted cannot because it is a government building ☹️ Even though it’s the old courthouse, there are still offices inside and people work there. Right now, we can’t plan for there because only 10 can be inside. We don’t know if it will change or not for sure by June 12. I have even contacted the reidsville penn house near us and they said they can guarantee a wedding but not the reception. So there isn’t many options for us right now. This place is local to us and guaranteed we could have our guests there and have a full wedding and reception. We looked at another option and it was horrible. This one is also more affordable than some other options, and those other options aren’t as lenient. So I picked it because I’m running out of time and I don’t know what else to do. Other than to postpone my wedding all together. I would hate to have to do that because summer is easiest time for me to get married. I’d hate to do it during the school year (I teach). But i don’t know. I just wish this virus wasn’t still getting in the way of everything! I would be Getting married where I wanted to be and this wouldn’t be an issue.

Hi Brittany, take a breath and fear not ❤️ The pond is really gorgeous!! I agree with DJ Tanner, so many possibilities!! I love the pergola!! Take it from someone where I totally transformed my ceremony site in 10 days due to covid (long story!) 👍 if you’re not feeling the country barn (which is really pretty btw!!), I can see white tents on that beautiful landscape. Benches can be replaced if you want to change them out. They can also be covered. In terms of regulations, this place is perfect with the outdoor and covered combo. A lot of brides are restricted indoors. You would be pleasantly surprised at what a talented florist can do to a space (I was for my wedding!). I also agree with Chrysta, it’s not worth the deposit if you will regret it in 5 years or have long term resentment.


Let us know what you decide and things always look brighter in the morning ❤️🌼🌹

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That makes sense, but I'm not sure how a venue can guarantee right now how many guests you can have. If the state you live in only allows 10 people indoors then they are required to follow that restriction unless it is lifted by June. This virus has sucked. I'm currently pregnant with our first child and my husband hasn't been able to attend any appointments so I understand your frustration.

I'm in NC too. If you end up looking for another venue, check out my venue, Reid Farm. It is in Lexington and seems to be about an hour from you. It has the things you mentioned you like- super pretty water front area, regulations allow over 100- but there are also several rain options, and, while it is classified as a "farm", there is no barn to be seen. In addition, the family that runs it is SUPER nice. We knew it was the spot for us as soon as we pulled in the parking lot. Best of luck!

https://www.reidfarm.com/

Hey fellow NC bride. I typically don’t really like the barn look but I think this venue is very nice! With that said if you are set on another venue how far are you willing to drive? I know some venues about 2 hours away that have June 2021 availability. I’m not familiar with Yanceyville but it looks like you all are close to the border have you considered options in Virginia? Again I’m not sure if they are more or less restrictive than NC but I know SC is more lenient if you are willing to drive that far.