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Just Said Yes June 2017

I don't have bridesmaids!

Brooklyn, on October 3, 2016 at 8:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 35

So I am getting married in June and have put off finding bridesmaids because I don't have a lot of close friends at the moment... I have people I hang out with in class, but no one I feel that close to and I haven't kept in touch with friends from high school. I have one brother, and my FI is an only child. I have a cousin that I'm considering asking, but we haven't been that close since we were kids.

I guess I was hoping some friends would magically appear, but time is ticking.

Currently, I have a friend that I was close with in high school and my little brother in the wedding party - but he will only be 16 so it will be more of an honorary role.

At first I was okay with having a small untraditional wedding party, but then the first question my fiances aunts asked was "how many people are standing for you?!" Now I feel insecure and am scared of being judged for not having friends.

Any clever ideas? Would it be weird to ask distant friends?

35 Comments

Latest activity by C+L, on October 4, 2016 at 2:11 AM
  • [anonymous]
    Master October 2017
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    I say stick with your original plan which I assume was no bridal party. You don't need one and I don't think you should go searching for one. A wedding is about the love you share with your future spouse, not how many friends you can wrangle up to stand with you. Tell that aunt to suck it.

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  • SenoraG
    Super July 2017
    SenoraG ·
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    I'm not having a bridal party and I have plenty of close friends. It seems like less hassle not to have one.

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  • CastleSabrina
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    CastleSabrina ·
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    I'm planning on no bridal party. I was sad at first but I didn't want to have them just because. So now I'm not sure because I'd like to have someone get ready with me day of.

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  • Fitz
    Master August 2018
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    You don't need to have a large bridal party, or even any at all. I wouldn't ask people that you aren't close with. Nobody is going to be focusing on the number of people in your bridal party... they will be focusing on you marrying your FI!

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    Just Said Yes October 2016
    Alexandria ·
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    I'm not having a wedding party, my sister is going to be my MOH but she's not standing with me. I wanted everyone to not get upset for being a part or not of my big day. It's been a lot less stress Smiley smile

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  • PerrinPuff
    Devoted February 2017
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    Im not having a bridal party. Moving around quite a bit over the past few years and inherently being a 'keep to myself' type of person has not led to deep friendships, and thats fine! I also cant really ask one sister to stand for me and not the other without causing issues ,so that resulted in no bridal party. Honestly, Im quite happy about it. Less fuss and stress.

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  • Brooke
    Super January 2018
    Brooke ·
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    I honestly thought of having no bridal party. I don't like people lol. But I ended up deciding to have my two sisters, my FSIL and then the one friend I do have

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    Just Said Yes March 2017
    Nicole ·
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    I have three under 21 y/o sisters and a cousin I am very close to. He has two sisters. We have a lot of friends but they are all couples. So instead of filling my side with family and his with guys that are basically my friends boyfriends, I put my 3 sisters and my cousin on my side and his two sisters on his along with my cousin husband and his dad is his best man. You don't have to worry about what people think. People are legit mad about our bridal party. I honestly don't care that much. It's not worth it. Honestly no party is probably easiest lol

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  • Michelle
    Devoted August 2016
    Michelle ·
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    There is absolutely nothing wrong with having no bridal party! Your brother can still walk down the aisle as part of the party without being a "groomsman" or "brides man" or whatever. You can do whatever feels right for you. I've seen quite a few weddings lately with no bridal party and it didn't feel strange at all.

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  • Dominique
    Devoted July 2017
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    I don't have sisters and I only have 1 best friend so I kind of feel ya

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  • Dominique
    Devoted July 2017
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    I wasn't helpful though. Sorry

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  • O&L
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    O&L ·
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    I had zero bridal party, not even MOH. My DH also had none. We had our parents and siblings walk down the aisle, gave toasts as well as help me with my dress. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

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  • MrsDrum
    Master June 2017
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    I recently went to a wedding and the couple didn't have a wedding party. They have tons of friends but chose to not have anyone because they wanted it to be about them.

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  • MrsDrum
    Master June 2017
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    I recently went to a wedding and the couple didn't have a wedding party. They have tons of friends but chose to not have anyone because they wanted it to be about them.

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  • Vicki
    Super August 2017
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    I am only having my adult daughter , adult son, and FH adult son. First marriage for both and do not want to put up with crazy bridesmaids

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  • Nancy
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    I'm just having my best friend as my MOH and FH's father as best man. That's it.

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  • Phylicia
    Super April 2017
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    I'm having my childhood friend as my MOH and FH has his brother as his BM... that's all we are having.. you don't have to have anyone if you don't want to.. Smiley smile

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  • Maui K
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    I'm not having a bridal party! And I'm so happy! one less thing to worry about

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  • kbb
    VIP October 2016
    kbb ·
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    No bridal party here! Less stress and less money. No regrets

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  • WW User
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    I can relate. I've never had lots of close friends. It felt like a strenuous task putting together a handful of bridesmaids and even once I did I felt a little like I was forcing it. The absolute best advice I can give you, coming from someone engaged for only 3 months so far, is not to force it. Bridal parties are not mandatory. If people question you, tell them you and your FH have decided to forego that and stand just the two of you. You will be glad you did.

    Plus bridal parties cost you money Smiley tongue

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