i don't have a Moh.

If you don't want one then don't have one. There is no rule as to where you must have a MOH or not . You can have any kind of bridal party you would like

It is your wedding. You can do whatever you want! If you don't want a maid of honor, that is totally fine! Or, you could have a close family member step in (mother/father/sibling). Or, just that one witness. Do whatever will make you the happiest!

If you've already decided you're not having a formal bridal party, and you're not comfortable asking anyone to fill the MOH spot, then I wouldn't worry about it. You do what works best for you. Are you guys eloping or having a courthouse ceremony, and that's why you're only having his best friend as a witness? Are you going to have your parents there? If you want someone there but not necessarily an "honor" position, what about at least your mom? It sounds to me that you don't care so much about having a maid of honor, per se, but more just being represented by someone. If that's the case, then why not just ask a local friend?

I'm in a similar boat as you, and while I have girlfriends that I regard dearly, I don't know that I really have a solid best friend as a result of living away from all of them for years now. We decided not to have a wedding party by name, and I'm so happy we did this. It is, however, a little tricky as we get into some of the details such as wedding dress shopping (I ended up inviting my mom and friend from college), bridal shower (don't really have anyone to plan this, so probably won't have one), and bachelorette party (again, don't have anyone to plan this, so either I won't have one or will do a small girls nights). For the day of the wedding, I'll probably invite all of my girlfriends who are attending to join me in getting ready if they want to. So basically we are still "operating" in some ways as you would if you had a wedding party, but we aren't using any labels.

My wedding is a combination on me and my fiancé not being intro traditions and trying to fit into the traditional wedding because my mom is paying for it. I don't have a wedding party because don't see the point. I expect my friends and family to fly in for the event and I don't even know if I will see them after because It's not in the budget to throw another event before or after the wedding. I did however imagine having a bestie by my side supporting me but I have been disconnected from my friends since I moved away from home. This would be the time to reach out... I'm just nervous about it.

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We were going to do a courthouse thing but because of covid then it evolved into a small outdoor ceremony with the parents and have his BF as the witness but then my mom said she would pay for a venue and guests so now it's 36 invited.

I didn’t have a bridal party or a MOH. My two best friends live far and they constantly complain of being busy and stressed so I purposely didn’t ask them to be bridesmaids. I’m not close w my sister so I didn’t ask her to be MOH.

You really don’t need a MOH. Don’t put that pressure on yourself to have one!

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Aw I can appreciate feeling nervous, but perhaps it's mostly in your head and your friends might surprise you?? Do you have any friends who you were really close with before that could make potential contenders, not necessarily with the label of MOH but maybe just as a close girlfriend that could be your little cheerleader? I honestly had similar doubts and really thought I might get disappointed in my friends, but my college friend I mentioned early who I asked to come dress shopping with me as my unofficial MOH has actually been a huge support and totally surprised me. We hadn't been in touch very much the last couple of years, and the whole wedding process actually brought us closer as it gave us a common thread, despite the distance, to have life things to discuss and joke about like old times.

We're not having a wedding party at all. Our (mostly grown) kids are helping with setup/takedown, the music and keeping folks busy while we do the photos thing, but it's just going to be him, me and our officiant up front. Kids/immediate family will be seated in the front rows.

You don't have to choose people just because you feel like they are supposed to fill a role if you don't see a purpose for that role. My FH and I are just having our siblings in our wedding party and that's it. I have one sister and he has one brother. I have two close girlfriends who I could have asked to be MOH but one of them lives far away and the other I do not think would share my vision. She complained to me a lot about the last wedding she was in and it seemed like she just steamrolled the bride into letting her wear the dress she wanted (very sexy/revealing. Definitely not my wedding style.) My FH has a ton of close friends he could have chosen so we decided it would just be best to have his brother up there with him and my sister there with me. I don't think it's a big deal to not have a wedding party.

Aw, I wouldn’t worry about that at all. A wedding party, although traditional, is only optional. I don’t think anyone would miss it.

View Quoted Comment Thanks everyone! I appreciate it. One of my cousins offered to help with coordinating the day off and being a sounding board with planning so I may give her a title in the program. That gesture was really nice.