I don't get why people refuse to send back RSVPs

I'm not looking forward to this at all. I can already see certain guests bringing a plus one and certain guests just not showing up. I'm sorry!

:-/ we sent out 80something and I think we only received about 65% back. Some never responded to calls, texts, messages, etc. Some people also rsvp'd yes and then never showed, with no explanation.

People suck.

This is my biggest worry! Sorry this is happening to you

I am dreading this. Luckily we don't have to find out their dinner choices (buffet) but I still need a head count.

Right there with you.... my deadline is at the end of this week and I got 25/85ish? back so far. We sent save the dates a long time ago, and invites a little less than a month ago, it's not like this is a surprise. Oh man and only 4/16 members of the bridal party rsvp'd lol. Preetty sure buying their dresses and suits counts as an informal rsvp though

Yeah, I've heard this is a common complaint. I decided to do RSVPs though my wedding website and then manually check off anybody who texts/calls. Figured it may be slightly more convenient, but if not, it at least saves me printing/postage for RSVPs.

I know I'll have to call some of my grandparents, since not all of them are online, but i'm crossing my fingers most people will be OK going online.

If not, oh well! we'll figure it out. everybody does in the end.

I'm dreading this too but at least people have texted you and let you know instead of not saying anything

I have 16 back so far out of 67.

I sent ours out a few week early due to our wedding falling around the holidays, knowing people would procrastinate.

So frustrating.

Agreed!!!! People just don't do it. Drives me crazy. I swear if people don't RSVP I'm marking them as a no. I shouldn't have to baby people.

I tell people all the time "if I don't get the envelope back you will not be on the list. My family know better than to try me! ;-)

Really hoping I don't have to deal with this...especially since were basically only inviting family and very close friends.

UO: This is why paper invites will eventually be replaced by online invites with a linked RSVP.

The last week or so of RSVPs were a pain! I couldn't understand either why it was so hard to put a card in the mail but towards the end I was fine with people emailing/texting me to let us know. At least we had an answer!

"Yeah, I have a mailbox two buildings over from our place, but I understand why people don't like going to the mailbox. Unfortunately it takes more than 5 seconds to get to a mailbox for most people. We're including an option to RSVP online for exactly this reason. I'm hoping it will reduce the number of people we have to chase down, but I'm not so optimistic."

I'm sorry, but no. If you have time to text all day long, you have time to get your ass to a mailbox. It doesn't even have to be yours. Any outgoing mailbox will do. It's really not that hard and one assumes that in the 6 weeks you've had the invitation, you've checked your mail at least once or twice.

At least people text you! I had to go calling and texting people to figure out if they were coming to my wedding! I dong understand if either, it's no effort to write your name and accept or decline and put it in the mail.

I can see why this is annoying. We're going to do online rsvp for this reason. Less traditional but I don't want to waste my money. I love the idea of rsvp cards but I know I won't get them back except from maybe my grandparents

I was invited to a cousins wedding g January in Florida, I live in Hawaii but I'm looking for cheap flights to go still. So I haven't sent mine back. She told me she needs a response because she has a 'b list' and this made me so annoyed I don't even wanna go now!!

@Laura then decline the invitation. Simply not responding is rude. Your sister's issue has nothing to do with this thread, though, since I don't have a B-list.

RSVPs we're so annoying. I even had people bringing them to my house. WHY?! There is a stamp! Lol people are weird.

My husband and I were supposed to do a vow renewal 2 years ago in Savannah Georgia. The venue was for 75 people. We called all of his family members to get current addresses on them to send them an invitation. We let them know what was going on. We sent the invites out and only got 1 RSVP back, and it wasnt even from a family member. We ended up cancelling our vow renewal ceremony and was lucky enough to get my money back. Funny part was they were excited about it when we spoke to them on the phone, but could not even send an RSVP. So now we are doing a vow renewal for my family out in Vegas next year, and only inviting my family and a few of our friends. I know you can't do that but I did what I had to do.