i Didn't rsvp But i Showed Up Anyways

We didn't have any extra seats, but our caterer did plan for a buffer of up to 5 people so they could feed that many extra with basic plates but they wouldn't be on the seating chart or have a name card or anything like that. We didn't have anyone show up that we weren't prepared for!

I’ll put it like this.... ones the deadline pass for the RSVP that’s it.... I’m not reach out to no one asking if they still coming or not that’s just crazy if they don’t rsvp they can’t come

I'm contacting everyone who did not RSVP on time (or having FMIL contact her family). If they show up anyway after saying no or not responding they can have a seat at the vendor table in the far back corner.

I'm not even sending RSVP's for this reason. I would personally add an extra table in the back and our caterer has already stated that they always bring enough for a buffer. My view for planning has been that it is better to have too much than not enough. With that being said, if you haven't received a reply and you've already reached out, I think it would be safe to assume that they aren't coming.

I’m not reaching out to the guest that were supposed to RSVP once that deadline is met. Ops oh well they fault!

I'm mean. So I guess if you show up unannounced, you can mingle at the cocktail tables.

FH said if anyone shows up without sending in an RSVP they could sit outside with a bowl of cereal lol. Thankfully we received every single RSVP back so we shouldn't have to worry about that. It's just so rude of people who do this

Anyone is welcome to attend the Ceremony.

However, if they didn’t RSVP, their name will not be on the Seating Chart.

This means that they will not eat.

Our friend is getting married next month and on her RSVP cards she put meal will be provided with RSVP only.

I just received a wedding invitation where at the bottom of the RSVP card it says ‘if you do not rsvp but show up anyways, please bring a chair and a sandwich.’

As for us, there will be no assigned seat or place card but we’ll have a meal for them.

View Quoted Comment That’ll get ppl to RSVP! Lol

Most of our guests who would just show up would be from my dad’s side of the family. I’m planning on sending my aunt after whoever doesn’t RSVP. She’s great at finding out EVERYTHING, so I won’t be too worried about people just showing up.

I reached out to everyone who didn’t answer (a few said they did rsvp but it must have gotten lost in mail) and if I didn’t get an answer after that I sent a text saying since I haven’t heard back from you I will unfortunately have to assume you are unable to attend and as I have already sent in my final head count I will not be able to accommodate you if you do

Apparently, RSVPs are such a radical idea around here. Our deadline was this week, and we've gotten back less than half. I'm being incredibly nice and waiting until Friday to start making calls. After that, they'll have to do drive-thru and stand.

PLEASE RSVP, no later than 16September2019. If you don’t RSVP then that means you will not be attending the Reception.

(Straight to the point. We have to order chairs.)

No, don't get extra tables. Tell them they have until X day to give you an answer or they will be marked as a no and cannot attend the reception.

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Hahaha love this. My cocktail hour pending good weather will be outside so it's humorous if they had to just stand outside all night. Lol

Give them a firm date you need an answer by for your head count and say if we do not hear from you we will have to mark you as no and hopefully we can celebrate in another way after the wedding! Don't have extra tables. If your caterer decides to have some extra food as a buffer fine, but certainly don't pay for extras as a "just in case". I agree with others, ceremony fine. But if you aren't on the seating chart, girl bye you can't and shouldn't get to stay. I would be annoyed and probably tell my coordinator to send them away. They've had probably a year to get their crap in order, so no you can't just show up like it's a backyard bbq.

We didn't have extra seats or accommodate any extras. If they showed up without telling me, they had no seat and no meal. If anyone didn't contact us or RSVP within a reasonable amount of time after the RSVP deadline (a few days, no more than that) we reached out one final time to say "We have tried to reach you to see if you will be attending. Since we haven't received an RSVP and you haven't given us a solid "yes" or "no," we have to mark you down as not attending. Sorry you can't make it, but let's get together sometime after." If they couldn't respond to our contact attempts ON TOP OF not sending back the RSVP, then there was no reason to even assume they would think of coming lol.

I saw this online and thought it was hilarious!