i didn’t ask my older sisters to be my bridesmaids...

I honestly wouldn't go out of my way to include them. They're acting very entitled and selfish, so don't cave to their level

Thank you 😊

I didn’t ask my 2 sisters either because 1. It’s a lot of time and commitment which one of them has a young son. 2. They both live out of the country. 3. It costs a lot of money to be a bridesmaid

I agree - if this is how they're acting by not being in the wedding then imagine their attitudes if they were. You're best to leave them out, they're adults, they don't need an explanation.

I mean I get it. But if you want to include them. You can make them Matron of honors. Only if you absolutely want to include them. All sisters have drama. Lol

While I understand not including them in the bridal party if you aren’t close(I didn’t include my sister in my wedding and we’re only 3 years apart), I think it’s a little silly to say you “included” them by asking one to work on your flowers and one to throw you a party.

View Quoted Comment I thought the same thing. You aren’t supposed to ask anyone to throw you a bridal shower. If she’s upset that you didn’t ask her to stand with you I imagine you asking her to throw you a party out of her own pocket was salt in the wound.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. Okay. I won’t ask her to do the bridal shower. How does it work? Do I put my own bridal shower together?

View Quoted Comment I agree. 🙈

View Quoted Comment How should I include them?

View Quoted Comment Very True.

View Quoted Comment Completely agree! Thank you.

View Quoted Comment I was also 100% confused about the bridal shower. My moh said she’s putting one together. Our wedding isn’t until October 2020 and she’s just started asking who I would want there, etc. I think they’re normally planned around 2-6 months before you’re actual wedding. Some people don’t do them. I didn’t think I was until she started talking about throwing one. Lol. Some brides parents, in laws, moh’s, etc throw them though. It’s a little rude that the only inclusion someone would have in your wedding is to throw the party though. Maybe you could ask them along for a girls day to do your nails a few days before the event and just tell them you asked your nieces because they’re younger and you didn’t want too many bridesmaids?

View Quoted Comment That sounds like a good idea. Thank you.

Do you have plans to have any readings at your wedding? Scriptures..poems...etc.? Could you have them read? That’s a nice way to include people close to you.

I don't think you have to explain yourself at all. Your wedding is about you and what you want, so if they can't accept your decisions they need to just get over it. If you're not even that close to them then they're probably frustrated for purely selfish reasons.

You should only include who you want to but don’t ask them to do things for you and call it including them. That’s a little insensitive.

My wedding is in less than a month and my advice to you is.. "It is your day! And you will NOT make all the personalities of your family happy" . So you and your fiance' need to discuss who you want involved in the wedding. I did not want a big wedding party -- so I just included my two sisters and my aunt (who is over 50) because they are close to me and know my fiance' well. He included his sister as a groomslady because they are close. Do what makes YOU happy.. Your family should understand.

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Good idea!

Its your day ask them not to show tell them flat out yes we are sisters but you are much older and did not grow up with me bridesmaids are suppose to be supportive and also your choice who it is tell them if they are going to be petty then please dont come its my day they had theirs. i have had to do this to a few of my family members already