i am not wanting to wear a dress

I have seen really nice jumpsuits, and even a few with an over skirt type of thing. Also if you want you could just wear a dress for the ceremony. But you should wear what you feel comfortable and beautiful in, whatever that may be.

View Quoted Comment Thanks i just make it about both of us but I will look into it

While it's your fiance's wedding too, I think the person wearing the clothes gets final say on what gets put on their body. If you don't want to wear a dress, don't. As previous poster said, there are some really cute bridal jumpsuits out there!

View Quoted Comment Ok i am going to look into it but thanks

I've also seen people do transformative dresses. E.g. jumpsuit or romper underneath a detachable skirt

View Quoted Comment Ok thanks I been looking into the jumpers too

There are some really chic bridal jumpsuits out there. David's Bridal has one that's one shouldered with wide legs--it almost looks like a full length dress at first glance, but it's actually pants:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_one-shoulder-crepe-wedding-jumpsuit-with-bow-ds870059

(I'd buy this one if I didn't already have a wedding jumpsuit)

Adriana Papell has some nice ones as well. Etsy is also a great resource.