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Victoria
Just Said Yes October 2020

i am my sisters moh and my boyfriend of 7 years isn’t invited.

Victoria, on October 14, 2019 at 4:03 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 23

Hi Wedding Wire — My sister is having a destination wedding in Montego Bay Jamaica November 2020. 80 guests. My my question is how to deal with the fact that I’ve been asked to be MOH and my sister has let me know that my boyfriend of 7 years is NOT invited. Invites went out and he’s not on the...
Hi Wedding Wire —

My sister is having a destination wedding in Montego Bay Jamaica November 2020. 80 guests.

My my question is how to deal with the fact that I’ve been asked to be MOH and my sister has let me know that my boyfriend of 7 years is NOT invited. Invites went out and he’s not on the list.

As far as I know the other two bridal party people have plus ones. My sister has given me many excuses from not enough wedding spots/rooms to her needing all of my attention as the MOH. She even said that my boyfriend doesn’t typically go to family events (I.e. thanksgiving — because he spends it with his family) so why would she invite him if he’s not going to show up.

anyways my mum is being no help and is taking my sisters side. And her fiancé is of the option of whatever the bride wants she gets. I believe he is the person who has Poisoned my sister against my boyfriend because there were no issues before he entered the picture two years ago.

Not it sure how to handle this has anyone been though this before?

as of now I’m sharing a free room with my mum (I’d happily pay for my own room if my boyfriend and I were sharing one) but since he’s not invited should I also expect them to pay for my flight and MOH dress?

Thanks


p.s. my sister invited two of my single ex boyfriends to the wedding. so space really isn’t the issue she just doesn’t care for my boyfriend.

23 Comments

  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    I would decline the MOH, and not attend.

    That said, if you do accept being MOH and/or attend, I would book my own room, and bring boyfriend anyway. They can keep him from attending the ceremony, but they can't keep him out of the resort! I'd attend the ceremony, skip the reception, and go spend the rest of the day, or days, with him.

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    I agree with this, 100%. He doesn’t have to go to the ceremony, but they can’t stop him from going on vacation.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Wow, this is beyond rude. I feel so sorry that you are in this situation. It's really unfortunate when family behaves this way. If I was invited somewhere where my fiance wasn't, he'd be super upset as well as me, and I just wouldn't go. It's so rude for people to assume that you'll honor their relationship, but can't honour yours. It isn't right.

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