i am marrying a Jehovah's witness but i wanted my mother to marry us who is a Christian pastor

To me I have seen a friend get married to an aethiest in a catholic church so you do not always have to follow protocol. Maybe you two could have two pastors? One of his faith and your mom. I think if anything he should understand the importance of her officiating means to you and I am sorry that is an outdated rule. Religion dates back to a different time period so the fact that she is a woman should not be a factor.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Kristen

Have the two of you discussed how your faith will play a factor in your marriage? Do you plan to have children and how will you raise them? While I know plenty of couples that have made interfaith marriages work, Jehovah’s are typically very strict about the beliefs they hold so if you haven’t already had specific discussions about your faith and your future, I’d do that now before worrying about whether he’s ok with your mother marrying you two.

Yikes. I think the way this conversation plays out with your FH is a big sign of how your marriage will be. I second Sarah on wondering if you’ve talked about your differing religious views in general. JWs are VERY strict, and I’m honestly surprised they are accepting his marriage to you. Inter-faith marriages are generally not accepted by the congregation. My father is a JW, and I was raised as one until I was 8. There is no validity in their claim that women cannot lead a church, but they are very old fashioned and have very strict rules. So I guess it all depends on how much his faith plays in his life. I wish you the best of luck.

You guys may need to have a long discussion about religion and expectations. Especially if he is extremely religious.

View Quoted Comment Thank u very much

It sounds like you two have INCREDIBLY differing view on religion and what it takes to be a religious leader. (I'm there with you on women being able to lead just as well as men) but it sounds like you're waaay too different.

What you need is to sit down and talk or else I cannot see this working out in ANYONE'S favor.

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View Quoted Comment Hi Suzie
Thank you for your insight. As of now, I know that he will not be welcome back into the kingdom hall because we are living together unmarried for the moment. I dont want to take him away from what he believes in and he doesn't want to keep me away from what I believe in. I do believe that all of us serve the same God. We are trying to make it right by getting married soon.

View Quoted Comment Hi Mandy
Thank you. We both discuss about our religion and we both agree to disagree without any arguments. That is one thing that I can say about my husband-to-be. He does understand that my faith is important to me and he doesn't take me away from it. Just because he doesn't believe in what I believe doesn't makes him a bad person at all.

I wish I could help you understand it… But I’m Christian and I don’t understand that belief either AT ALL!!!

View Quoted Comment Hi Sexypoodle
It is hard for us as Christians to understand what to believe anymore because of tradition that we was raised in. Today's Christians are now looking at the bible differently than the old pastors. I can say that the truth as been hidden from us for so many years but you have to read the truth so you can understand it yourself.

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I say this nicely by saying no he does not understand if he is telling you no on your mom officiating because he believes women can't be called to become a pastor. My future in-laws are JW and they are strict. Who does he want to officiate?