i am Having a Hard Time with Bridesmaids Dresses

Uhhh all that matters should be you looking the best on YOUR wedding day. You are letting them choose their style and they should be happy with that. Sorry you have to go through that😣

I'm sorry you are dealing with that! I gave my bridesmaids a color, length and fabric from Azazie. It gave them about 100 options for dresses. They all picked one off the website, no one tried to go off another website! I would just tell them it's the website you said or nothing!

Maybe give them a specific website or store instead of just a color

I'd just ignore it or keep reiterating "this is the color, length, brand, material - other than that pic whatever you want". If you refuse to engage, they will get bored and pick something.

I originally had that same attitude - I pick the color and length and they can wear what they’d like. That quickly backfired and this week me and my maid of honor are picking out one dress and that is the dress they are going to wear!

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Hey Jennifer, thanks so much. I am really doing my best to not be a Bride-Zilla, but I am definitely thinking about flipping the script.

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MrsD. My thoughts exactly. I thought I was being fair with giving them the option to chose. I have been in many weddings and most of the time I hated what I had to wear.

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Hey Heather, My Maid of Honor has been a great help so I am thinking of letting she I choose the dresses.

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I've never hated what I had to wear, but I never really cared since it wasn't my day. All my girls seemed to like their dresses enough!

My bridesmaid backed out last night(after giving her two other times to do so) because she thinks I am being unreasonable about cost of dresses and I don’t want to order online because my maids are all different sizes. I said $150 max and I’ll cover the cost if it goes over (including alterations) and I am not requiring hair and makeup or a fancy bachelorette, a bridal shower at all, or a gift. I just want to go to davids bridal, make it easy, and call it a day. She also doesn’t understand why this hurts me. I don’t have advice, but I feel you. Of all the wedding things that could happen I never thought my best friend would be the one to mess it up.

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Katie, I have given them the store, the website, the fabric, and color. All they need to do is pick a style. Simple.

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Lady, I feel you, but I really hate repeating myself to adults.

It sounds like it might be easier and less stressful if you picked the dress for them

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MrsD. thats good.

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Catherine, OMG I am sorry to hear that. I guess I should not be complaining right now. You have a bigger issue at hand. I hope things work out for you both.

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Renee, Facts. I am going to discuss it with my MoH this evening.

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Totally get that - so I would just stop! Just say "I won't discuss this with you anymore". Or just don't respond to messages (if that's how their complaining). If you just don't discuss it, they will stop complaining eventually. I think they're pushing because they know you'll engage!

Next time they do it I would point blank say, "I have already covered this. You can choose any dress that is this fabric and color. I don't think that is an unreasonable request. This is my big day and that's what I would like. I'm not talking about this anymore."

My girls are all going to be in the same dress just to look uniformed and to keep down drama. I did tell them they can wear whatever hairstyle they like. That's the only thing that will be different about them.

Unfortunately, I think you're going to have to be firm with them. Restate you choices of color and fabric and tell them there's no discussion. If they continue to be difficult then go ahead and make the decision for them. You can say "I'm sorry ladies, I tried to be flexible and give everyone a choice so you could be satisfied with what you're wearing, but this has become far too stressful for me so I've chosen this style and color. Please order it by this date." Or if you still want to be a little flexible, narrow it down to three dresses in the same colors but different styles and tell them to choose one of the three.