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Just Said Yes November 2013

I am about to get married in 3 months but now my fiancé's brother is eloping next week

VintageBride, on September 5, 2013 at 9:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I hate being that bride who wants all the attention, but I just want this time to be special.

My future husband and I have been planning our wedding for a year (and its been very stressful, with lots of family pressure). Its finally right around the corner...just 3 months! Im getting really excited. Then just a few days ago we find out my fiancé's little brother (who just got engaged last month) wants to elope this weekend.

So far this hasn't gone over well with their parents and a few other family members. Personally, I respect their wishes and say elope!! But I just kind of wish they would wait 3 months.

Is it selfish of me to want to feel like the special newly weds? To be the new Mrs.?

Is it silly for me to worry that if their alcoholic mother finds out she might make a big scene on our special day?

Honestly, tell me what you ladies think. I feel like a jerk. But I feel like this should be our special time and I think my fiancé deserves some positive attention from his family

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on September 5, 2013 at 10:19 PM

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SoontobeMRS.H · on September 5, 2013 at 9:40 PM
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Maybe if they get married now (this weekend) by the time your wedding comes around everyone will be ready to celebrate an actual wedding.
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S2B Mrs. Davis · on September 5, 2013 at 9:43 PM
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I agree with Annie. 3 months is long enough for that memory to fade. Once it's y'all s day, it'll be y'all s day. Don't stress over it.
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LadyCrystal · on September 5, 2013 at 9:43 PM
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Your FH is going to get positive attention anyway. just let it go. you cant expect others to postpone their happiness for you.
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Roma · on September 5, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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My husband's sister got married 2 months before me and trust me, it's the last thing you will be thinking about on your big day. It doesn't detract from attention either, it really doesn't. 3 days before and I might be upset... but not 3 months.
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MrsO · on September 5, 2013 at 9:48 PM
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You say "But I just kind of wish they would wait 3 months." however you also say "Is it selfish of me to want to feel like the special newly weds? To be the new Mrs.?"

If they elope now, 3 months before your wedding, plenty of time will have passed and focus will be on you at the time of your wedding. I'm assuming you don't really want them to "wait 3 months" because then that would be right after your wedding and you won't get to feel like "special newly weds."

I know you feel like some of your thunder is being stolen, but live your life and your happy times, and let them live their life and their happy times. 3 months is a fine buffer between the two. Don't let it get to you.
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VintageBride · on September 5, 2013 at 9:55 PM
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Thanks everyone! That actually helps a lot.

Ill chill out and realize that our day will special no matter what!
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HalloweenBride · on September 5, 2013 at 9:56 PM
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FH's sister got married in July, we're getting married in October, three months. Trust me, it's plenty of time, and everyone will have their day and be the bride.
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Stephanie · on September 5, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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My cousin is getting married three months before I do (she picked her wedding date first). Another cousin will likely be getting married a couple months after we do. We're all just looking forward to partying together a lot.

You get one day. Keep reminding yourself that. They are not eloping AT you.
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